Are you teaching your kids to fight back or walk away?

The world is only getting harder and unfortunately especially as a guy nobody is going to come and save you, you have to stand up for yourself and even if I will be blessed with a daughter I will definitely tell them to stand up for yourself and not just sit there and get bullied.

I usually teach my son to walk away from a situation and find a trusted adult. Unless he is in a situation like this I would want him to fight back so he can walk away. I will teach the same to my daughter. If the get punched in the face, I want them to punch back because the aggression is huge

My son is getting into wrestling, so discipline will come with the technique.
So if anyone tries anything……i’m not even getting involved .

Well, I was always taught to stand up for myself, and I tell my son the same thing. Still, I also tell him not to hit anyone for no reason. He has never laid a hand on anyone, but he almost hit a toy back at a little boy at his old nursery because the little boy threw it at my son instead of getting up and putting it away. It hit my son, so my son was instantly upset and picked up the toy to throw it back at him. Luckily, I saw my son and stopped him because I knew that little boy didn't want to listen and didn't like being told what to do. My son will only do something to someone if he is provoked.

My 7 year old son has been told plenty of times to fight back if needed. I watched him rock an older kid once at indoor play because this kid kept consistently slapping him in the back. I was proud.

I will be teaching to leave the situation if possible and find an adult. I will also be starting my daughter in some sort of martial arts group when she's ready so that she'll learn how to defend herself with suitable force and discipline if necessary. But imo escalating the violence by responding with violence isn't the right thing to do unless there is no other option.

Definitely teaching my kids to defend themselves especially if it’s continued behavior like this. Cause I’m not gonna sit there and watch a kid throw cans and sticks at my kid and then get punched by the kid and make mine go apologize. That’s crazy to me and almost teaching them to accept that behavior.

With no parents around, I likely would’ve left before it could ever escalate past the throwing of things.

Walk away unless its a recurring issue. Honestly not sure what I would have done in this situation I think I'd have to be in it but when my second was first born, my younger siblings (1,3,4 & 5) were over and the 3 year old was bullying my 2 year old. There was a few things that had happened but at one point the 3 year old randomly went upto my 2 year old who was sitting playing with her toys and pinched her hard in the arm and my daughter started screaming. I didn't see it but my partner did and told my daughter to go and hit her back. I asked what had happened and ultimately agreed with him because although I hadn't seen this specific incident I had seen her hit her and take her toys off her quite a few times before it while I was breastfeeding my newborn. My siblings (well half siblings) mum was there and found the situation funny which annoyed me more so it was like well we'll see how funny it is now.

I’m teaching my son to stand his ground. Ideally that means attempting to get an adult before it turns physical, but if he randomly got punched in the face I would expect my son to swing back. I also wouldn’t make my son apologize for swinging back.

As for the end of that interaction I would’ve definitely spoken directly to the aggressive kid & said that behavior is not cool, it’s a playground not a fight club. I wouldn’t have forced an apology but I would’ve addressed the situation regardless of if his parents where around or not

I’ll teach mine to hit back and I won’t make them apologise for it…

My dad always told me to stand up for myself in school, and it served me well, so I’m teaching my kid the same.

OK also the kid was younger than my son. Would you still not make your son apologize? I feel like it’s a bit unfair to let my son pummel a kid that’s smaller.😂 if the kid was older, I would definitely not make him apologize

They can stand up for themselves without being violent. I'm teaching my daughter to outsmart and discuss things instead of violence. That is a last result.

Definitely stand up for yourself, but if it gets physical or you feel the need to hit, walk away. Its not ok for someone to bully you but hitting is not the answer

Depends on age and understanding

Stand up for yourself , without violence if you can . Be confident i who you are.

I have confronted a few people i thought were being bullying or disrespectful to me over the years, not many

As a teacher, I cannot tell children to 'give as good as someone gets' or 'shove them back' or ' walk away' .

Knowing when to do wgich comes with time