Fed up!!

I am soo fed up lately! Stuck in a relationship that i don’t want to be in because i don’t want to ruin my sons life by breaking up his family! Been with my partner for 10 years and have never been able to have an opinion on anything or say how im feeling because i always get shut down and now i think its just all got to me at once and im just soo fed up

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I’m a bit gutted about husbands comment

So I have a 20 month old and I was out with my girlfriends last night. It was a typical mums night out and of course the question came flooding in if we were thinking of having anymore children? I replied yes we probably will try have more as I’ve always wanted more than just one child but I also mentioned we’re not trying and we haven’t got to serious talks yet about when exactly we’d have a go for baby number 2. But I’d be lying if I didn’t admit its there in the back of my mind.

Anyway my husband asked this morning what me and my friends were chatting about and I told him.
He just replied with,

“if you got pregnant right now our nursery bill would be massive.”

That’s all he said and it’s a valid point but it also made me a bit sad that everything always boils down to money. We both earn a decent amount and yet everything is so expensive, money isn’t very far from our thoughts.

But when we’re chatting about our future family it’s so hard to always think with our brain and just sometimes it would be nice to think with our hearts. Even if it’s just to have a chat about it we don’t have to act on it.

Anyway it just made me feel a bit meh that he just bought it back round to be all about money.

I’m just venting but are there any other couples who sorta feel a bit stuck. Wanting to grow their family but cost of living is just so high it’s hard not to take it into consideration. It makes me very sad.

Am I in the wrong?

I feel like I'm going insane. Yesterday my partner had a very long busy shift (he's a police officer for context) I work in the same organisation so I completely understand what his role entails.

We were both sat on the sofa in the evening with our son who's 8 months old. He was playing while we watched TV. Our son is extremely active, climbing all over us, us I mean mainly me. I've had him all day (which I'm happy with don't get me wrong but he's a handful) and I was up all night with him beforehand as he's a terrible sleeper. I'm knackered basically. Yet he's sat on his phone ignoring him.

I eventually said can you get off your phone and pay attention to your son please, which he did. I obviously had a miserable face on and he asks what's wrong. I said I've had him all day could you just pay attention to him for 10 minutes. He obviously replies with "I've been at work all day I'm tired". Now, am I in the wrong for expecting him to still be a dad after work? We chose to have this baby and you can't play with him for 10 minutes in the evening!!? He makes me feel awful for even asking🙄

Am I overreacting

I found out my brother passed away back home and for many reasons I couldn't travel for the funeral. On the day I found out my hubby left me with the kids to go ply football not even 20 minutes after finding out even though I was clearly very upset because me and my brother were close. I tried brushing this off but I am so angry! I just do t feel like he has been there for me this week and I am mad as hell. I do t even know how to tell him how I feel so disappointed 😞

6 months,doesn’t want solid food

What to do?

BLW on the go

We’re off to the sea side today with my 7 month old she has breakfast and tea normally at home what can I grab her to feed her something I can pick up from the shop.

How do you kindly tell people to stop offering your child (almost 2 ) ,fast food or store bought stuff I can not even tell what it is.
Context, born and raised in Africa , so I keep food natural and simple.(Homemade) .

Luckily my son doesn't even take the stuff bcz h doesn't know what it is and there's always someone persistent on giving him stuff.They say something like,”it's strawberry it just melts in your mouth “ an adults .Yeah I know what strawberry is and I don't want whatever that is.I know they are trying to win his smile but he knows food.Even at an actual hospital waiting, someone is offering gold fish , a hospital.I understand in America people don't care about food , but I swear I wish people offered normal stuff like an actual fruit .At friends’ house, in-laws , everywhere you go .And people look at me like I'm the crazy one for not even knowing what that stuff is , they keep saying, “oh you don’t like this” it's really good.…i truly don't I didn't grow up here and I've tasted that stuff it's not even good 😭.Rant over !