Feeling guilty

Here to write down my thoughts really.. maybe an in the moment thought I dunno. I dont think i love my newborn as much as my 1st. I was always terrified of this. I dont feel like weve had much bonding time ive just fed her, put her down then focused on my toddler. Im not enjoying skin to skin this time. I feel like my newborn definitely prefers her dadda. Theyve had so much time to bond. I feel in mourning of my life as a trio. I feel so guilty writing this and it makes me heartbroken I even feel this way. I don't feel like I can say this to my partner either. He just wont understand and say "ofc you do". 😭😭😭😭😭

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I’m a bit gutted about husbands comment

So I have a 20 month old and I was out with my girlfriends last night. It was a typical mums night out and of course the question came flooding in if we were thinking of having anymore children? I replied yes we probably will try have more as I’ve always wanted more than just one child but I also mentioned we’re not trying and we haven’t got to serious talks yet about when exactly we’d have a go for baby number 2. But I’d be lying if I didn’t admit its there in the back of my mind.

Anyway my husband asked this morning what me and my friends were chatting about and I told him.
He just replied with,

“if you got pregnant right now our nursery bill would be massive.”

That’s all he said and it’s a valid point but it also made me a bit sad that everything always boils down to money. We both earn a decent amount and yet everything is so expensive, money isn’t very far from our thoughts.

But when we’re chatting about our future family it’s so hard to always think with our brain and just sometimes it would be nice to think with our hearts. Even if it’s just to have a chat about it we don’t have to act on it.

Anyway it just made me feel a bit meh that he just bought it back round to be all about money.

I’m just venting but are there any other couples who sorta feel a bit stuck. Wanting to grow their family but cost of living is just so high it’s hard not to take it into consideration. It makes me very sad.

Am I overreacting

I found out my brother passed away back home and for many reasons I couldn't travel for the funeral. On the day I found out my hubby left me with the kids to go ply football not even 20 minutes after finding out even though I was clearly very upset because me and my brother were close. I tried brushing this off but I am so angry! I just do t feel like he has been there for me this week and I am mad as hell. I do t even know how to tell him how I feel so disappointed 😞

6 months,doesn’t want solid food

What to do?

Are you teaching your kids to fight back or walk away?

I have never told my kid to hit anyone he’s almost 4 so we’ve mostly focused on don’t hit. But my son hasn’t had that problem for over a year. (Ever since we got past, the toddler hit stage)

The other day we were at a ballpark and this one kid kept being rude to my son.
He was probably three and he kept throwing cans and sticks at my son. Eventually, I went over there and threw the Can away. Meanwhile, no parents are to be found at all.

Near the end, the little boy who was throwing the can went up to my son and punched him in the face twice hard and unprovoked I watched the whole thing and my son started hitting him back.

And then the little boy started bawling crying I made my son go over there and apologize to him and make sure he was OK but the only person watching this kid was nine years old so obviously he didn’t know to tell the other kid to say sorry etc. I wasn’t sure what to do.

I’m curious, what would you have done in this situation?

Also, do you think it’s OK for your kids to defend themselves or are you teaching them to run away?

How do you kindly tell people to stop offering your child (almost 2 ) ,fast food or store bought stuff I can not even tell what it is.
Context, born and raised in Africa , so I keep food natural and simple.(Homemade) .

Luckily my son doesn't even take the stuff bcz h doesn't know what it is and there's always someone persistent on giving him stuff.They say something like,”it's strawberry it just melts in your mouth “ an adults .Yeah I know what strawberry is and I don't want whatever that is.I know they are trying to win his smile but he knows food.Even at an actual hospital waiting, someone is offering gold fish , a hospital.I understand in America people don't care about food , but I swear I wish people offered normal stuff like an actual fruit .At friends’ house, in-laws , everywhere you go .And people look at me like I'm the crazy one for not even knowing what that stuff is , they keep saying, “oh you don’t like this” it's really good.…i truly don't I didn't grow up here and I've tasted that stuff it's not even good 😭.Rant over !

BLW on the go

We’re off to the sea side today with my 7 month old she has breakfast and tea normally at home what can I grab her to feed her something I can pick up from the shop.