Please help- advice. I think we are damaging our toddler

He's 2 and half and as of lately hes been so chaotic, in public and at home. He's just always doing something wrong and its gotten us to the point we are yelling at him. He cries and says daddy angry or mummy angry. And this morning I see he breaks my $650 eye glasses and so I reactively told him off and in his deep sleep he was saying mummy angry mummy angry, it broke my heart and I started crying. I dont know what to do? We have tried calm talking but he doesnt process it and takes it funny.. i am so bent that I think we have damaged him mentally and from my own past childhood trauma that is the last thing I want to do. I have been working so hard to regulate his nervous system so he doesnt end up fucked up like me. And I try so hard so he has a great childhood/life.. what can I do? Gentle parenting seems to not work on him and test our boundaries all the time which I know is normal but we can only take so much.

in our community

Am I overreacting

I found out my brother passed away back home and for many reasons I couldn't travel for the funeral. On the day I found out my hubby left me with the kids to go ply football not even 20 minutes after finding out even though I was clearly very upset because me and my brother were close. I tried brushing this off but I am so angry! I just do t feel like he has been there for me this week and I am mad as hell. I do t even know how to tell him how I feel so disappointed 😞

6 months,doesn’t want solid food

What to do?

Are you teaching your kids to fight back or walk away?

I have never told my kid to hit anyone he’s almost 4 so we’ve mostly focused on don’t hit. But my son hasn’t had that problem for over a year. (Ever since we got past, the toddler hit stage)

The other day we were at a ballpark and this one kid kept being rude to my son.
He was probably three and he kept throwing cans and sticks at my son. Eventually, I went over there and threw the Can away. Meanwhile, no parents are to be found at all.

Near the end, the little boy who was throwing the can went up to my son and punched him in the face twice hard and unprovoked I watched the whole thing and my son started hitting him back.

And then the little boy started bawling crying I made my son go over there and apologize to him and make sure he was OK but the only person watching this kid was nine years old so obviously he didn’t know to tell the other kid to say sorry etc. I wasn’t sure what to do.

I’m curious, what would you have done in this situation?

Also, do you think it’s OK for your kids to defend themselves or are you teaching them to run away?

How do you kindly tell people to stop offering your child (almost 2 ) ,fast food or store bought stuff I can not even tell what it is.
Context, born and raised in Africa , so I keep food natural and simple.(Homemade) .

Luckily my son doesn't even take the stuff bcz h doesn't know what it is and there's always someone persistent on giving him stuff.They say something like,”it's strawberry it just melts in your mouth “ an adults .Yeah I know what strawberry is and I don't want whatever that is.I know they are trying to win his smile but he knows food.Even at an actual hospital waiting, someone is offering gold fish , a hospital.I understand in America people don't care about food , but I swear I wish people offered normal stuff like an actual fruit .At friends’ house, in-laws , everywhere you go .And people look at me like I'm the crazy one for not even knowing what that stuff is , they keep saying, “oh you don’t like this” it's really good.…i truly don't I didn't grow up here and I've tasted that stuff it's not even good 😭.Rant over !

Another vent…

Back again I posted yesterday my husband yelled at me and said I never do anything for the house…
Well guess who was up at 6 with my baby then my toddler woke up at 7 my teen woke up at 8 gave them breakfast put a load of dishes in cleaned up after breakfast played with the kids put my baby to nap showered changed diapers gave a snack cleaned up took them outside walked around went to the park came back at 1130 and started lunch and HE WAS STILL ASLEEP!

I got him up and he left and didn’t say anything so here I am feeding the kids cleaning up and now putting both littles to nap…

I’m so beyond annoyed and frustrated BUT I DO NOTHING?!

Fed up!!

I am soo fed up lately! Stuck in a relationship that i don’t want to be in because i don’t want to ruin my sons life by breaking up his family! Been with my partner for 10 years and have never been able to have an opinion on anything or say how im feeling because i always get shut down and now i think its just all got to me at once and im just soo fed up