Am I the only one?

This pool is in the ground**

Btw I know them enough to know they’ve never had any thing to protect anyone from falling into the pool even their dog (who has brain issues and doesn’t function normally) who is most always in the backyard

It’s stressing me out and idk if I wanna go over there anymore until they actually do something about that

That’s nuts. I don’t care if people think I’m the crazy one when it comes to my kids’ safety 🤷‍♀️ that would make me so anxious knowing her kid lives there with it being so unsafe, ugh.

Do they not have a fence around the pool? I think that’s illegal in some way, could you get them fined or something??

I would be superrrr uncomfortable with this too. My brother has an in ground pool. They have a separate fence around it and I’m still really on edge when we are there.

You can never be too careful!

Sadly people who have pools or spend a lot of their time around pools tend to be more nonchalant about pool safety. They'll go off on having guns in the house even if the guns are locked in a proper safe, with trigger locks, ammo stored separately and keys in various locations around the house, but open pools with no supervision are fine. Even though drowning incidents consistently outnumber gun accidents every year.

For what it's worth it gives me the heebies just thinking about my kid being near a body of water unsupervised. Like it makes my skin crawl. I just wouldn't do it.

You are not crazy at all. My brother in law has an in ground pool that is fenced in but you can access it from the inside of the house. My 4 yo and 2 yo are not allowed outside without supervision. I even considered making them have a life jacket on at all times while outside. My 4 yo (then 3) randomly jumped in the pool without a life jacket. Thankfully family was already in the pool.

That’s freaking nuts!!!
Not only is drowning silent, the most common time kids drown is when there are lots of other people around, bc adults & teens get sidetracked chatting, sadly a lot of times other kids tell the adults & they have to live w/it forever. We always have a lifeguard on duty when the drawbridge is down on our pool, ours is a 17x32ft above ground, no outer ladder, gotta be at least my height & strength, 5’2” & it’s solid wood decking, to lower the bridge to the back porch & there’s a surveillance camera on it w/a human sensor alarm that requires us to turn off, had an alarm for animals, but cats & chickens kept setting it off, sliding glass door has a lock & an upper child safety device, front door has a chain where I can barely reach it. Basically, by the time my kids can get around all of it, they’re old enough to go do their laps alone & my youngest is 4.5yo farm kid who learned to swim young, same for the teen, but he’s had years of lifeguard style training too.

This honestly reminds me of Emilie Kiser on TikTok who lost her son due to drowning in their back garden. It took minutes. I wouldn’t risk it and I think you identifying the risks and understanding how dangerous they are is amazing. I don’t think you’re overreacting and I’d be saying the exact same things if I was in your situation 🩵

Thank you all I knew we weren’t crazy. My MIL is always saying I’m not “like them” and have to much anxiety over things their family doesn’t think is unsafe.
Once I told my husband and reminded him “she can’t swim and drowning is silent” he luckily was on top of it when I wasn’t able to be but it just is nerve wracking especially with us due with another child!

They’re irresponsible and stupid.

We have an in ground pool and the pool area is fully fenced. There are tall gate latches that prohibit kids from operating them. There is no access from our home. I know a family that lost a child to drowning in their pool. We are very vigilant and have our doors alarmed as an extra layer of protection. My kids are currently in swimming lessons. Despite that, they still wear life jackets when we are out in the pool area. They are always supervised. When we host friends or family, we are cautious with safety. What you are describing, is completely irresponsible. I think sometimes people think they can guess a child’s behavior. My 5 year old has really bad impulse control. Even if she didn’t, I wouldn’t trust her alone near the pool.

I think this is where you say, sorry we can’t make it this year. I’m not returning until I can be 100% sure it is safe to be there.

That would stress me tf out. I don’t let my children near water without me or another trusted adult holding their hand.

I would tell everyone. Then id stay glued to my kid if i ever when over there. Kids have been suctioned under water from pipes etc and no one knew smh. They could at least designate someone to monitor the pool during the party.

I learned on peanut that drowning is silent isn't common sense when we talked about leaving young children alone in the bath tub. This would stress me out. I'm happy it's too cold for pools to be something we have in yards here.

It’s just negligence and I would never let my kid go. I have a pool fence that locks. A house fence that self closes (so no random kids can wander in accidentally) I have an alarm, a camera and double locks on my sliding glass door. A child in my neighborhood died because he wandered outside and his parents didn’t know and went into the pool… I am having a bunch of parents over Tomorrow to swim. If they parent isn’t outside they ain’t swimming