Potty Training: I feel so defeated and disappointed

Maybe it's okay to take a break. What makes you cry?

Try to reframe your mind and consider the first days are more for data gathering purposes than actual success. Make sure you're managing your reactions, I found it stressful also but we need to make sure we're calm about it so they don't get stressed. Mine refused to use the potty and held in her wee for 5 days then something clicked and it was all uphill from there. 3 days in is super early. Potty training is a long term commitment, it can take weeks to get on track and then there will likely be accidents and regressions down the line. It's a process, try to go with the flow. It sounds like yours is controlling when he goes because he's weeing as soon as he's off the potty. So he's just resisting doing it in the right place and is a good age for it, I'd keep going.

It generally takes months on average to fully potty train. Sometimes they regress and it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It’s part of the process. Keep going, so fr you’re doing great!

Potty training is hard. Stay positive, find a strong motivator for him (my daughter is a sticker queen) and remember that it takes a while to learn a completely new skill. Make the potty a safe feeling space so they are motivated to sit long enough to go. My daughter likes to bring a small toy to the potty.

It gets better. It won’t stay hard forever. We didn’t start really making good progress until I changed my mindset and reactions regarding accidents.

It’s not an instant connection. Even if they successfully make it once, they may be many unsuccessful tries after. My oldest took years to finally get it. I used to read books to him about the potty, let him put a sticker on the potty every time he made it, offered special snacks, and sometimes I even had to have him sit on his potty when I had to potty so he’d understand that it’s a thing everybody has to do.

Firstly, I want to tell you you’re doing great. That feeling of defeat and frustration is so hard to live with while trying to stay positive for your little. It is absolutely mentally exhausting.
Regressions are completely normal, and most of the time, expected.
I suggest taking the pressure off.
Try and make it less of a “job” and more natural.
I used sticker for my littles when they regressed.
But I gave myself and dad stickers every time we used the toilet as well.
We had our charts in the wall, and would announce it whenever we had to go.
“ mommy needs to listen to my body, it’s says I have to pee!”
And then let them help me pick out a sticker after I was done.
It helps make it fun and it gives them an instant reward.
You could even make it if they get a whole week of potty stickers, they get to pick out a treat at the store.
Try and make it fun!
But again, I can’t stress how good you’re doing.
You’re trying your best and that’s what matters in the end.

Potty training is hard I’m going it still with my 7 year old who has autism so it’s difficult on some days more than others