Anyone find it easier staying home with a toddler?

My 21 month really is such a good boy, I am so lucky. He has been good with everything since having him. I can’t complain.. BUT he’s at the age where he just wants to run off, touch and play with EVERYTHING. We go to families houses and it just feels pointless because I’m constantly telling him not to touch things and I can’t have a conversation with who i’m seeing.
I bring toys, snacks etc but obviously everything else is more exciting. I then come away from their house feeling deflated and like i should have just stayed in.
At home he can just play with everything and the house is baby/toddler proof.
Any advice welcome too

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God no.

I REALLY appreciate family who has baby proofed for me. But it’s so much worse for me keeping her cooped up. Even just going to the store and having some freedom in the toy aisle gives her the energy outlet she needs. Then seeing different things all the time helps them learn so much too

For people saying No, what do you do if they want to touch everything out in a shop or at someones house? If i say no to my son he screams and drops himself to the floor. It’s not that i can’t handle him, but i just don’t know what to do.
I do feel extremely drained, me and his dad are together but i may aswell be single as i literally do everything for them both

Take to the park where they can touch everything. Letting my kid roam free in a store is a no go for me lol

Yes and no. 2.5yo here (31 months) if we stay in he will literally climb the walls, but going out he can also be a nightmare in all the ways you described above. I figure exposure is key. He won't know how to behave in different situations if I don't take him out and teach him (it's rarely smooth sailing and he's definitely going through a worse stage right now, but overall he's getting better though).

I am a much better parent out of the house most of the time. Because they are better out and about and we have other things to do and look at and play with.

Staying home with my kids when they were toddlers and even now is like staying home with a pack of hyenas.

No way, I had to leave the house every day when my daughter was a toddler, being at home all day would be hell! You just have to be doing age appropriate things, play park, walks etc. and if we did go shopping then she got strapped in the pushchair if she wouldn’t stay by my side.

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I need a new husband lol

My husband rarely makes breakfast for me. And I was hoping this bank holiday weekend as he's off he would make the effort but when I asked him just now when he would make breakfast for me he said when he has the energy. He is always tired as he suffers from insomnia but ever since our son was born 7 months ago he has energy for our son. I feel very hurt by this statement as I've interpreted it as I am not important enough. I'm now getting up and go make breakfast for us as we get ready for the day

Heatwave hell 😭

I am really struggling in this heat. I’m melting. My 6 week old won’t sleep off me, won’t sleep on me, will fall asleep in a carrier but then I’m sweating and he’s uncomfortably hot. My toddler is misbehaving and is rejecting me. He is struggling without my attention. My littlest wants no one but me. The house is a shit hole cos nothing is getting done with the mayhem going on. I am not having a good time. Anyone else’s April baby struggling??

Oh we’ve also got illness galore. I have nipple thrush, bubs has oral thrush, I have a cold and I think my first period has arrived despite breastfeeding (didn’t with my first). My eldest has ringworm, a cold and cough, skin infection in his nose and conjunctivitis. He’s been back to back unwell for the last 5-6 weeks. Honestly it’s been never ending

Having a hard time.

Im really struggling right now with my partner.
Im 3 months PP with a planned baby.
My partner and i are constantly falling out. He says he is not expecting me to do everything but is literally expecting me to do everything. Keeps telling me i am not doing enough and that he is working so i should be doing the housework. Ive been really trying lately as baby is getting easier to put down but he does not see me at all. Find myself walking on eggshells and afraid of doing anything for myself. Ive tried talking to him on so many levels but each week it gets worse. I am also breastfeeding and up all hours of the night.

Feeling really stuck and unhappy at the moment. Im only on SMP and have no one who can watch the baby for me when i do go back to work so will be paying for nursery. I earn £16 per hour and worked 35 hours before the baby.

How do i get out of this situation if we cant make things work? I dont want my mental health to continue to decline because of the way he is treating me.
Our rent is £900 per month for reference so there is no way i could afford to be on my own.

Heatwave activities

My baby is almost 4 months old, and I naively thought I could take him out early in the morning for a quick stroll, but it was already 27° at 9 am. We played in the sink for a bit and then the usual tummy time, books, gym, and looking outside. I have a small patio that is shaded, but it feels too hot. I took him out for an early walk yesterday at around 9 am, and he was quite warm in the pram.
My husband will be back to work tomorrow.

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Does anyone else get upset/fed up with the narrative that anyone can be a SAHM, if you just cut a few luxuries? I literally don't know anyone in real life that could afford to be a SAHM, but on this app, it seems like everyone thinks it's a possibility?

For context, we have a mortgage on a one bedroom house which is about 650 square foot. We live an hour away from work, as living closer to work is not affordable. We own two cars (needed for work) one being 16 years old and the other being 13 years old. We own them outright and petrol is cheap. We never eat out, haven't been on holiday for about 5 years. Everything is budgeted.

We live paycheck to paycheck. I just get so upset when I see others say that being a SAHM isn't a luxury, but a possibility for everyone. It's really not. I would love to be a SAHM, but if I don't work, we don't eat. And it's not just me, this is the reality for everyone I know.

Is anyone else on this app in the same position?