I think my partner is taking coke again

How old? Like when’s the last time he might’ve worn it?


I had a guy I was talking to once, I was at his house party and a drink was spilled on me. He offered me a pair of his sports shorts. Well I unaware at the time put my hands in the pockets and immediately pulled out coke/drug straws. Now I accidentally presented them to the party, to which his best friends tackled him and accused him.
He admitted they were old smaller shorts from the days and didn’t know they were in there. 🤷🏼‍♀️ totally harmless though. Though he let them do it, didn’t act defensively.

Only you can make that decision. What's he like as a partner and father?

If he's going to counselling, then he's trying, but if you cleaned the coat and a few months ago and you've found more empty bags in his pocket, he's clearly lying.

Is he doing it at home or when he goes out for a drink? Both me and my partner used to dabble with coke before having kids, but we haven't done it in years, we only did it when we partied, but if my partner was addicted to it and hiding it from me and lying I'd be having a serious sit-down conversation and either he stops for his family and gets help or it's over not only that but coke is expensive and I'd want that money spending on my family

After dating a coke addict and going through that hell, if I suspected my partner I would get a hair sample tested. Unfortunately addicts aren't known for being truthful so I'd just find out for myself.

Can you manage on your own? I mean, like financially? If so, and in your gut, you really think he's still doing it and hiding it from you then I'd sit down with him and tell him that you're want to go on a break until he gets clean, spending thousands on an addiction is crazy but let me tell you something you'll never be able to help him, if he's addicted only he can help himself if he wants to, even if not for himself his family should be enough to help him want to make that change

Don't let him convince you that what you've seen makes sense. If you've recently cleaned his coat and now he has empty bags in it, he's definitely using.