Sex in a long term relationship

Hi sweetie have you two talked about this? Was it different before? If it’s always been this way, then there’s no real change it’s just something “normal.” My own relationship is going through something similar; my partner spends almost *the entire day* on his phone or computer. Sometimes it’s exhausting because, before we started dating, he used to say he barely used his phone at all; now that we live together, it’s sometimes a hassle to deal with, and it actually makes me feel insecure. But anyway. I think it might be a good idea for you two to try talking it over in a relaxed setting one free of any sense of accusation or guilt. (And always approach it with a positive attitude!) Remember that men tend to perceive almost everything as an attack. I’m 36, and I’m still learning how to communicate with men in general, since they view things completely differently than we do. But what I *have* learned is to speak to them not from a place that sounds like an accusation or like is better

I hate this feeling but at the same time, your feelings matter too. Constant rejection and uncertainty can slowly make someone stop initiating altogether because they’re protecting themselves from more hurt.

I think the bigger issue here isn’t just sex , it’s reassurance, emotional closeness, and feeling desired by your partner.
You deserve to feel chosen, not like you’re competing with strangers in public or wondering what he’s doing on his phone at night.

Instead of approaching him only from the angle of ‘why don’t we have sex,’ it may help to have a calm conversation about how disconnected and undesirable you’ve been feeling emotionally. Not accusing , just honest. Because if this keeps going unspoken, resentment and self-doubt tend to grow.
If your gut says he’s watching 🌽, he’s watching it!

I feel you on this way I don’t remember the last time me and my other half even did have sex. We now have an 2 month old I just thought it was because he didn’t want to when I was pregnant but even with baby being here it’s still the exactly same thing. The other day i had gotten up before him took baby down the stairs and then realised I had forgotten something i came upstairs to catch him watching porn🙄🙄🙄🙄 just makes me hate myself even more if my confidence wasn’t bad it definitely is now! I understand men have needs but so do women!