Am i being ungrateful or is it fair enough,?

My husband's parents randomly turned up with a gazebo for our garden.. but I don't want a gazebo..

I know they are just trying to do something nice. But I also find them so interfering... They are nice people but they are very opinionated and not open to other opinions. They very much think their opinion and way of life is the 'right' way. They have always had a gazebo in their garden and I feel like they think everyone else should. But I just don't want one 😂

So now we have this gazebo that I don't want to put up but also don't want to be ungrateful!

Such a small problem I know haha. But there's been sooo many little things like it since we had our first child (14 months ago), and it grates!

in our community

Having a hard time.

Im really struggling right now with my partner.
Im 3 months PP with a planned baby.
My partner and i are constantly falling out. He says he is not expecting me to do everything but is literally expecting me to do everything. Keeps telling me i am not doing enough and that he is working so i should be doing the housework. Ive been really trying lately as baby is getting easier to put down but he does not see me at all. Find myself walking on eggshells and afraid of doing anything for myself. Ive tried talking to him on so many levels but each week it gets worse. I am also breastfeeding and up all hours of the night.

Feeling really stuck and unhappy at the moment. Im only on SMP and have no one who can watch the baby for me when i do go back to work so will be paying for nursery. I earn £16 per hour and worked 35 hours before the baby.

How do i get out of this situation if we cant make things work? I dont want my mental health to continue to decline because of the way he is treating me.
Our rent is £900 per month for reference so there is no way i could afford to be on my own.

I feel guilty for considering tv time

Hey moms, I've been contemplating letting my 20 month old have the TV for the day. This is something he gets once or twice a month, if at all, generally no longer than 30 mins. I am so exhausted. I stayed up late cleaning last night and taking time for myself. My husband was up early, which unfortunately woke my toddler who refused to go back to sleep, and is very miserable right now. As much as I enjoy being a sahm, its one of those days where I wish we had chosen daycare. Is tv for the whole day overdoing it? What are some alternatives that have worked for you?

Who’s wrong?

My husband and I go out with another couple. They start venting all their issues. My husband pulls the woman aside because he says my input is escalating the convo. (We had all been drinking).
So he ends up talking to her and I to the guy separately for like 3 hours both sides just airing all their grievances. We all reconvene and discuss some of the things said- maybe 30 mins?
In the car I ask husband “so what dis she say” He goes “who”. I’m now annoyed because who else???? So after I respond clearly irritated he then asks “when?” Clearly when you guys were away from the group! He’s mad at my responses and that I got annoyed. I’m mad he’s asking obvious questions and we fight. He ends up never answering. Next day we’re not talking. Who’s wrong.

Sex in a long term relationship

Is it normal for your partner to barley want to have sex with you, he’s 37 and I’m 27, I’ll admit I don’t make the first move purely because I did it once and he turned me down and it knocked my confidence a lot, we have it maybe once every month or even longer, I do sometimes get in my own head and think he’s watching po*n when I’m sleeping, He’s constantly on his phone till early hours in the morning, He does suffer with MH issues and his body confidence due to putting on abit of weight, it just makes me feel like I’m not his type and I catch him looking at other women when we’re out even doing shopping, it’s always blonde type women too as he has a things for blondes apparently.

Anyone find it easier staying home with a toddler?

My 21 month really is such a good boy, I am so lucky. He has been good with everything since having him. I can’t complain.. BUT he’s at the age where he just wants to run off, touch and play with EVERYTHING. We go to families houses and it just feels pointless because I’m constantly telling him not to touch things and I can’t have a conversation with who i’m seeing.
I bring toys, snacks etc but obviously everything else is more exciting. I then come away from their house feeling deflated and like i should have just stayed in.
At home he can just play with everything and the house is baby/toddler proof.
Any advice welcome too

First holiday as a family

For our first holiday (we’re just booking a UK lodge holiday as we want to take our dog), would you recommend 7 nights or 4? I keep reading mixed opinions as apparently a week lets you properly switch off more but then I’ve also read it might be better to start with a short holiday so it’s not a week out of the routine.

Our son is 15 months old and we both work full time and feel like we need to switch off from work and constant housework at home.