Am I forcing?

I’m a sahm mom I do everything around the house when partner is working. Today I made him take our 4y boy to the park since the sun came out, because it has been raining for the past 3 days so we didn’t go out at all. He worked from 9-1:30pm today since is a holiday. He’s tired because he went to bed late because he was playing call of duty even though he knows he’s not good at staying up late, I could tell he got mad but I didn’t care.
We have 3 parks around our house they’re like 2mins in car, maybe 10mins walking but he decided to take him to the one that’s like 10min in car idk why lol.

So right now I’m gonna get ready and head to target and Marshall’s to grab what I need.

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Nah he’s fine 😂 he’s a working dad, even though he may have been irritated at you for that it’s good one on one bonding time & a good break for you!! I get the need to get out after multiple days of rain lol

Also have a husband that plays video games late at night once a week and he always regrets it the next day but he tells me not to let him pity sleep or anything so 🤷🏼‍♀️ I know that’s their version of a break and their own time to do what they enjoy, but don’t expect us to pity you too much when you stayed up too late because moms need a break too!

Yall can talk about it later! The only thing I’d say is maybe give a heads up next time? Or go with him if he’s THAT tired, but girly you’re fine I don’t think u did anything wrong

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If he can’t prioritize properly (aka not play a game so long he doesn’t want to acknowledge his child? Ew) then he can deal with the consequences like a child 🤷🏼‍♀️ I see no issue with how you handled it

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He got mad so what. Men do that. As long as he gets over it and doesn't try to cause stress for you as a consequence, don't worry about it, let him have his frustration

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