Intimacy issues

My husband and I didn’t have sex from the last time i got pregnant is been 2 years and very stressful time.Basically since then we didn’t have sex.Something is going on he hasn’t been cheating ,still loving husband ,cuddles ,kissing he still very nice with me but our intimacy has changed and im getting very worried .I got very insecure to speak or have a conversation with him about this.
I really need helpppp how to deal with this what to do?

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You have to talk to him, I know it’s awkward but communication is key x

Yeah, you’re going to have to talk to him not matter how uncomfortable it makes you feel. He’s your husband. He shouldn’t react poorly to you wanting to repair your sex life, I would think. If anything possibly admire you acknowledging an issue and wanting to work on it constructively

You really need to talk to him & explain how this is bothering you & probably add in that you are worried about his health, if sex wasn’t just something he could do w/o before. My hubs & I are both Demi, he’s “old” & likes to think that everyone is like us when truly in love, but he suffered TBI in the service & lost a lot of his childhood, but I remember trying to act “normal”. The thing is, we love sex, but it is FAR from our most important part of intimacy. When I asked him out, all those years ago, I deff wasn’t the only woman noticing those green flags, yet he’d willingly gone w/o sex for nearly 4yrs. Then when I cramped, after coming off 10w of pelvic rest, he couldn’t do it anymore until I was 7w PP, he felt like he hurt me, so we only had sex 1x past 10w. He didn’t skip a beat w/all the other intimacy, there wasn’t a day I didn’t feel loved & wanted by him, my hormones were driving me crazy, but I’m usually the same, take it or leave it if my other intimate needs are met………TBC

You have to be able to talk to your man. Dont be insecure. That’s your husband! Sometimes you have to have hard conversations, but you’re his wife. I’m sure he’ll be happy to listen to you.

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