Phone besties?
Really wanting a bestie, obviously hence the group name lol, but getting out now is 10x harder. I just had my second girl almost two months ago and I have a 3.5yr old daughter that doesn’t always make it easy. I’m in Washington, Tri Cities to be exact, and with summer basically here, I don’t want to take my baby out too much. Is being besties via text/social media a thing? Because that’s what I need right now 😭
My friend thinks I’m in the wrong, third party opinion needed
Hi, so my boyfriend of 3 years was caught cheating on me recently. I’m obviously heart broken. For the last three years, our lives have become very ingrained in each other (small town living doesn’t help) and we are both part of the same friend group. This weekend we have plans on the river I’ve been excited for all month, and it’s the first time all year I’ve gotten a babysitter. My boyfriend and I even bought boats for this day. Despite our break up, we agreed to remain civil for the kids, and I said I’d still like to still spend the day on the river with our friends. He agreed.
I mentioned this to my best friend, who is not part of this friend group, and she got very pissed and told me off. She told me I need to cancel the plans, and there’s no reason to be around someone who cheated on me. I explained we will have seperate boats, and he will hang out with the guys, and I’ll hang out with the girls (we’re mostly couples in this friend group). She reminded me that he cheated, and I agreed and said I don’t know need her reminding me of my lived experience, and going out for a day in a group doesn’t mean I am getting back with him. I said I don’t think it’s fair to punish myself and miss something I was looking forward to because he had shitty actions/behaviors. She disagreed. She told me to cut him off entirely, block him, and tell him if he wants to see the kids he can take it up with a judge. I said I don’t agree with that, and his actions towards me are not reflective of his actions as a father. I said I firmly believe of distinguishing a difference between the two relationships, and I can’t block him if we have shared lives (kids, expenses entangles, etc.) like we still have a lot to figure out. She says she thinks going kayaking will let him think he behaviors were okay, and that it means I won’t actually leave him. She got a little harsh and said she was “speaking her mind” and said she doesn’t even know how can I be in the same room as him. I explained there’s mixed feelings because I hate him for what he did, but I do still have to figure it out and be an adult, it doesn’t mean I have to forgive him. She disagreed and said she needs to show tough love, and if I go down to the river this weekend then she will no be talking to me until I learn to respect myself. I don’t feel like I’m not respecting myself? I just really was looking forward to do this float.
Thoughts?
