Why is it always the mother in law?

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Some of these mothers deadass be in love with their sons and it is the most foul shit in the entire world.

Not all MILs are awful.

what?!!!!!!!

ofcourse, but you rarely hear father in law issues in comparison or brother in law

Gender roles and expectations play a role in that. Men are less involved in family matters, men are not expected to provide the same support as women. Women have historically been the carer by default.

When grandparents are involved providing help, there are more complaints directed towards the grandmother because they are the ones carrying most of the load, not the grandfathers.

The more interaction you have with someone, the more friction you will have. Those are human relations. The best way to avoid friction is to keep them uninvolved and far.

And I do know stories about brothers in law and fathers in law issues. It all falls in how close are those relationships and what interests are involved.

My MIL is a raging alcoholic who refuses to get help, so she's cut off from our kids (partner's choice but I agree), but my Step MIL is absolutely lovely and our little girl loves her, we see her fairly regularly despite living far away, so think it depends really 🤷‍♀️ xx

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