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Arguing with husband during nightly wake ups

Hi guys,
We have a 22 month old who still wakes once or twice a night. She's always been a poor sleeper, so this is actually a big improvement. My husband and I take turns with night wake-ups, but lately he's started taking ages to respond when it's his turn, and it's driving me mad.
I'll hear our daughter crying and getting more upset while he just lies there watching the monitor, then goes downstairs for a drink or faffs about before finally going to her. By then, what could have been a quick cuddle and dummy often turns into a much longer ordeal because she's fully awake and distressed.
His reasoning is that she's older now and he wants to give her a chance to resettle herself. I understand that when she's calm and just stirring and she has been known to do this on occasion put herself back to sleep. But he's also doing it when she's actively crying and calling for us. To me, that's very different and a sign she needs comfort.
The other issue is that once I'm awake, I struggle to get back to sleep, whereas he can fall asleep instantly. The whole point of taking turns is that the other parent gets a chance to rest, but I'm often lying there awake listening to her cry while he waits. I’m then up for hours.

A few times I've ended up going in to sort her myself because I can't bear listening to it any longer. Plus I want to get it done so I can try get back to sleep. I’m so tired and it’s adding real negative vibes in the night because I wanna scream at him. I’m so resentful towards him by the morning i practically don’t even wanna talk to him.

I’ve tried to talk to him but it’s falling on deaf ears. I need advice or opinions.

Mama of Three under three here

Baby boy made it May 6 at 10:22pm I am three weeks and three days postpartum trying to only breastfeeding/ pump and feed in bottle what’s everyone pump session/feeding sessions look like bec I’m trying and I think my milk supply is going down and I’m scared it’s so hard to wake up at night to pump/feed I’m trying to find a schedule that I am able to keep up with and not over pump or overfeed and stress the boobs out

I feel isolated and defeated

On May 25th a baby in family passed away.. she was only 5 months old

Her parents are lying about the cause of death and I knew because the mother told someone I know
I reported this to the hospital she passed away at… My family thinks I did the wrong thing by reporting this before the baby was buried and that I should’ve waited because “god was going to handle it” or some other bullshit excuses… I reported it on Friday, 4 days after she passed away.. My family is ignoring me and calling me mean names and telling me it’s not my business to do what I did but I don’t see how I’m wrong because this is a baby that lost her life due to unsafe cosleeping. She was suffocated by her dad in both of their sleep from what I’m being told and they told the hospital she was suffocated in her crib by a blanket. My thing is why lie? I wouldn’t lie about this if I was innocent.. I guess I’m ranting because I’m hurt my family isn’t on my side in reporting this… I loved my family so much and now it’s just me, my man, and our child..

Rolling in the night

Help! My baby has started rolling on her front during her sleep?? She’s 3 months old and it’s freaking me out? Is this safe? Is there something I can do to stop her? Co sleep? It’s making me so anxious 😬

Need relationship advice please

Whenever I try to talk to some friends about my relationship they just tell me to shut up or that you are happy etc

Basically I don’t get on with my father in law, his partner or his partners daughter. Ever since my daughter was born 2 years ago anything I say they never listened to. I wanted no visitors they didn’t listen, no kissing the baby didn’t listen. Anything I said they didn’t listen. They had my baby call the partner mama without asking me if it was okay when I said something I got told off. I do just want to add I’m not close with them and they only really started making effort with me once I was pregnant because they wanted a baby. Anyway how they’ve treated me has really affected my mental health. Anytime I talk to my partner about it he just says he doesn’t want to say anything to them because he doesn’t want to upset them.

When I was at one of my lowest due to depression etc with how they were he still did nothing because he didn’t see the point in upsetting them. I’ve been on the fence about having another child (although I’ve always wanted 3) due to how they have treated me and I’m scared it will happen again and I won’t have the support. He is worried if he tells his dad partner off that his dad will cut contact with him which is crazy.

All im asking for him is to say you’re wrong, at the end of the day you aren’t the mother, what you’ve done has upset my partner please don’t do it again and he can’t even do that. His dad’s partner is a priority over me.

Sleep deprived

Me and baby haven’t had any sleep at all for the past 3-4 nights as my baby won’t stop moving even for a minute, she won’t sleep at all even during day time she’s slept for like 30 minutes for each nap and at night time she fully awake, like even when she’s eventually drowsy she’s still wriggling all night and she won’t even sleep on me because she does the same while being held too😭 I’m doing everything right, my first born wasn’t like this at all, what should I do? 😭