Daily Routine

Before having a baby I was terrified of not having a secure routine. I understand that as babies develop things change and routines changes but I always worried I’d be in constant anxiety over lack of routine.

My baby is 10 weeks old and my mental health has never ever been better. From the moment she came home she slotted into our home perfectly.

This isn’t to say the routine doesn’t change from time to time be we move and adjust with her.

My partner goes to work 5 days a week so I do the nights/daytime by myself and he helps with the evening and has her by himself overnight if I need that extra sleep or support!

In the mornings we get up around 10am and I take her downstairs to feed her. I wash and sterilise all her bottles and all my pump parts whilst she’s feeding. Whenever she naps I get all the washing done and I make sure the house is all in order. In the evening my partner takes her to bed whilst I reset the house. I feel like I’m really on top of things since having her which is so weird because I expected it to be the complete opposite.

I struggled massively during pregnancy with my mental health from a pre-existing condition that was out of control. I’ve never felt more stable/happy since she’s been with us. The house is cleaner, my partner and I are happier. And I’m loving watching my little girl grow up in such a calm and loving environment.

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Feeling like a bad mum

Constantly feeling like shit from my dad he’s been telling me I’ve gained weight I’m sick off it don’t wanna cause an argument for standing up for myself I’m all alone have no friends I’m sick off living of living like this been in my place a year and it’s not even decorated yet been asking for help and I’m not getting it. I want this Christmas to be special I want my living room to be magical this year for my son 😭

Giving up on trying

I feel so alone rn my bf (not my sons father) doesn’t help with the baby or anything if I go to the store I need to bring th baby if I make food I need to have the baby so I ask him to do those things he’s not working or anything he plays videos games and doesn’t do much at all all I did was ask for help today since I was throwing up and he’s wanted to come at me with a smart ass mouth and be a dick to me so I did it on my own with a 3 month old on my hip i just feel like I need to do everything or I’ll get bitched at sorry just venting I guess im just so overwhelmed

My husband I think doesn’t like me

My husband seems like he hates me idk what to do he’s so mean curses at me yesterday we fought because I had a time to be home as we are on vacation and my grandma has a time she wants us home he lets his fam disrespect me and he disappeared with his sister to her car didn’t even tell me or anything the first time I went outside I said hey what u doing he said oh talking to my sis I said well let’s go cause we gotta go it’s almost 9:30 pm I thought it was strange then he never comes in to get the baby I went a second time mind u im in early pregnancy and he got me agitated like we had to go and he was taking his sweet time I said wtf u doing come on let’s go so we are on time he said ok chill then does it again the third time I lost it I never cursed and said f u blah blah I just said stop taking ur f’in sweet ass time and let’s go and he got furious what hurts the most is he’s so loving to his family but to me he’s mean and looks at me with almost dead eyes they don’t smile the mouth does but his eyes don’t get wide when u love someone which hurts he’s mad I’m emotional in pregnancy, am I in the wrong?

Bread??

Is it safe to give a 9 month old bread/sandwich? He’s got his two bottom teeth. Even tho my daughter is only 2 I cannot remember if she was eating bread at this age.

Opinion

So, Ive brought up several times to my fiance that I’ve been in a relationship in my past that was unfaithful and was cheated on/had a lusting bf. There’s been several deep convos we’ve had about our past and just some things we fear. My biggest one is cheating and has been brought to his attention several times. He always reassures me, and obviously I trust him so much. Well, a few times I’ve talked about it I’ve noticed he kind of dissociates and I think it’s odd but don’t think much about it. He told me once that when him and his ex wife were divorcing and in the filing stage to it being official, he did mess around with someone during that. Anyways, I’ve asked multiple times if that’s been the only time or anything and he’s always said yes. Well, last night he had a drink and seemed to have the liquid courage maybe but he told me he had something to tell me and hasn’t been fully honest with me and while his wife was out doing stuff with others I guess, and they were going through a bad time, he got super drunk at a wedding and ended up sleeping with someone that night. While still married. He said she was doing the same thing and it didn’t justify his behavior and shouldn’t have done that and told me he’s been wanting to tell me this for MONTHS but just has been afraid to and couldn’t figure out the right timing but wanted to tell me before we got married. He’s worried I see him different, which I don’t. I’m so in love with him but I did express my concerns like hey, “if we ever go through a really bad time in our marriage or you accidentally get too drunk is that what you’re going to go out and do” considering I’ve been in the position of being cheated on. He pulled me closer and looked me in the eyes and said “I would never do this to you. That wasn’t me back then and I am so in love with you. That wasn’t who I was and I would never even think about that. You are the woman of my dreams” and I DO believe him. Seriously. But at the same time…. I’ve had a pit in my stomach since last night.

Please tell me if you were in my shoes what you’d think or feel? Would you just say no biggie and move on, or have different feelings? I want other woman’s opinions on this

How do you clean the potty?

When LO has a wee or poo on the potty, what do you do?