Baby Daddy in Question…

I know its scary but honestly it is different when they’re even just a few months old. Right now he’s so young he doesn’t give anything ‘back’ so to speak. My husband was very similar but things get easier after a few months and they start smiling and interacting with him. My husband also hated the newborn stages with the crying and sleepless nights and I was really worried but he absolutely loves it now!

I would however just be on the look out for PPD though just in case it is something more serious.

My partner is very similar too. He gets frustrated when our daughter wont settle and says the same thing "loves her but don't like her sometimes" The baby stage can be very daunting. Its why I often go out with friends or with my sister to allow him some space. I do however believe that once shes older he will loose that frustration has toddlers aren't so demanding and they have better communication/understanding. Like at the moment their crys are for everything, theres not really a massive routine. Their crying lessens as they get older which makes it slightly less frustrating. My partner finds it a bit easier now our daughter mostly sleeps through the night tho

Sorry about this. It’s definitely hard for both parents when a baby is super fussy, but we as the parents have to remember that it’s a very scary time for the baby. Imagine if out of nowhere, we are forced to relocate to Mars… it would creep us the heck out and would take us AGES to adjust. Your child’s father has to try to be patient and understand that your baby doesn’t want to be fussy, it’s just a lot of things are changing and the baby is struggling to adapt. Continue to pour love, patience and comfort as much as possible.

Also, when baby is very whiny, (I know this will be hard) but try not to leave the baby with his dad because his current reactions can easily spiral into shaking the baby out of frustration. Closely monitor the situation for now.
Parenting is hard for everyone, he has to try and put his big boy pants on for now and step up for his child. I hope it all works out for the best for both of you.

This sounds like he’s having a hard time adjusting. This can happen to both moms and dads. I agree with the above to make sure dad has support when he’s with baby and reassure him he is a good dad. The phrase they are having a hard time, not trying to give you a hard time even helps me when I feel frustrated I can’t settle my child. Women come with a nurturing instinct that not all men have. Give it time, he will bond with baby as it grows more and he can do things with baby that make him feel accomplished as a parent. In the meantime, make sure you are getting enough support, rest, and self care too

I agree with Winnicott's saying, all mothers hate their children sometimes. And there can be many reasons
Maybe it's your husband saying it out loud scares you?