Should I return his father's day gift?

Have you talked to him about it?
I had a bad first Mother’s Day also and I put my foot down told him it’ll reflect on Father’s Day so he better fix it before Father’s Day rolls around. He is planning something because he understands he fucked up and I won’t be going to his family Father’s Day who are mean to me since that’s what he wants for his day if he doesn’t fix his fucky wucky.
If you communicate and he doesn’t fix his shit or apologize even definitely show him the same energy maybe even book yourself a spa trip on his dime on Father’s Day and leave the kids with him. He wouldn’t be a dad if you didn’t put your body, mentally and physically through it to make him one. The women’s brain goes through more changes in pregnancy than puberty if he can’t show appreciation for bringing your kids into the world and raising them into great little humans then he shouldn’t be shown appreciation either.

Nahhh people aka men like this only understand matched energy. Match his energy. I’d book myself a spa day and leave him with the kids. That’s what he did to you, so it should be fine right?! And the time for promises and conversations is after he feels exactly what it’s like to get treated the way he treats you. Not before. Cause he won’t learn a goddamn thing. If the kids made him something at school then that’s great, but I would not be rewarding this type of bullshit. He knows what he did. And I’m sorry, he paid for HALF??! Fucking hell.

Did you tell him what you were desiring and expecting for mothers day? Did u tell him you were dissapointed and why? Alot of men arent really sentimental like women are and need some what of a push in the right direction. I would talk to him. And then id ask him did he “plan anything” for his fathers day and tell him u will go half😎. Sometimes u have to mirror these mens behavior so they see their error… but communication is best because some men really just dont care about holidays.

I love how Mother’s Day is before Father’s Day. Sets the bar. My partner let my LO chose what to get me (which I’m not mad at) but I got frozen chips (that’s her fave food ever) chocolate and flowers. Then a card that he let her scribble in with BLACK marker pen. Didn’t help her write anything, didn’t even give her a light colour pen so I could see the cards words.. (she’s 2, but was also my first MD with my second born)

I also always say what I want to do for the day. (Again not an issue)

But then FATHERS DAY he ALWAYS expects me to have planned something (even when was just his older child) .. decide yourself what you want to do??

But yeah so anyways this year my 2yo is deciding what to get him and scribbling in a card too.

Normally I’d get him something personalised, which to be honest he’s not bothered about anyways so not going to bother.

Celebrate fathers Day however you want.