What else can I do?

I’m a SAHM and my baby is 10 weeks old. I’ve got a great routine. I reset my whole house in 10 minutes each night because I tidy as I go all day everyday. I put washing on everyday so it never builds up.

To me everything is always done, always organised and always sorted yet I feel like I want to do MORE. I have the energy and the time to get more done. I love our house, it’s beautiful and we’ve decorated it exactly as I want it and it’s constantly like a ‘show home’ (described to me not by me). I love doing stuff around the house but I want it to be purposeful. Any ideas?

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Potty training query..

My little one will be 2 on June 21st. She seems ready to potty training, tells me when she needs to poo/tells me when she's done a poo, can hold her urine for up a long time etc. The problem I have is I'm trying to bare bottom method and this morning she held her urine all morning and then started telling me she needed a wee and was saying ouch but wouldn't let it go on the potty, only letting a few drops out. She wouldn't go until I put her nappy on and it was a huge wee then! Does this mean she isn't ready? Or is there anything I can do to encourage her to wee on the potty? I try not to put any pressure on but just lightly reminding her that if she needs a wee wee to go on the potty etc. Any advice would be great, even if it's telling me she isn't ready. We are on day 2 of no nappy. I'm a FTM so feel like I'm going in blind 🤣

please help

this was my first month using tax free childcare and i am so confused how have u ended up with the £92? i don’t understand as i paid more then the £74??? also my childcare provider tried to take the money automatically however didnt work as i hadn’t transferred money over, when i did the tax free account deducted it but isnt showing up on my childcare app as paid??

Nursery

My daughter will be two in November and everyone keeps saying she should be going to nursery. She doesn’t need to for childcare as she stays with my husband or mum when I work, and I’m not bothered about her going as I love having her with me! What are your thoughts?

NEED TO RANT CAUSE WHAT

So my man goes to work every day of course and I stay home with his daughter to take care of her and I’m currently 27 weeks & 2 days pregnant with our second. I went to his work yesterday to pick him up. I had to run in the store to get some pepto and I just met his new coworker (she’s a female) and we had a very short conversation. Next morning my man calls me while he’s at work and said his coworker called me “uppity” and for those who don’t know what that term means it’s basically saying someone acts self important and thinks they are snobby. I don’t know why or how she got this impression from me but I definitely don’t think I act self important. I always care about others even if I don’t know them. I’m just confused about the whole situation. I feel very weird and self conscious about what other people think of me anyway. I don’t know if I’m just over thinking things but I feel like she’s getting to big of a liking to my man (her man is locked up) i told him how that her immediate impression of me really hurt my feelings and made me feel like I really was acting self absorbed and snobby. Of course he reassured me I wasn’t and went on to saying “she’s been through a lot” I understand to certain extent. But that just seemed very strange and rude. Let me know what you guys think please. Am I overthinking or should I confront her?

Making mum friends is hard!

I have a friend who I knew before I had my little one, who has two children with her youngest being 6 months older than my little one. She lives very close to me and made friends with another neighbour who also has two children similar ages to hers. Since having my little one, I have also made friends with this other mum and we’ve been on walks and to baby groups. We have a group chat and I seem to be the only one suggesting meeting up, however, they are constantly going on walks (they walk past my house whilst I’m sat in the lounge on my own feeding my baby) and hanging out just the two of them with their kids. My original friend was also invited to a birthday party for the other mum’s youngest and me and my little one were not. At this point it feels a little like they are rubbing it in my face. I’m not sure if I’ve done something wrong or if it’s simply a case of their kids being friends - am I being unreasonable?

I’m feeling very left out and low about the situation, I don’t have many friends and am finding maternity leave very lonely. I am not sure if I should say something and what I would even say, I don’t want to make it awkward with us being neighbours.

Cleaning

Any stay at home moms having a hard time with keeping the house clean? My husband and I had the biggest fight we’ve ever had yesterday. He thinks the house needs to be OCD clean. I told him that it’s okay for our house to look like someone lives there. That we don’t have to have our house so clean that we could have a walk through done at any point. It’s okay if the laundry isn’t done and there’s a couple dishes in the sink He makes it seem like we live in squaller. He flew out my sister for the summer to help me with everything but my 2 year old hates her. Anything my sister does causes a meltdown in my child. She walks down the stairs and my daughter starts freaking out. So when my sister tries to help we just get screamed at.

After he packed his bags ( because yes I do guess it was that serious) he made me a list of everything I NEED to do everyday. Some of them I’m like yeah I already do that everyday. But others I think he’s just asking way too much. Deep cleaning the entire house everyday with two under two? Like I’m sorry but I’m not deep cleaning everyday. Especially watching our two children 24/7.

Can I be doing more around the house, yes, but it gets really hard when he comes down the stairs and points out everything I HAVENT done yet.