please help

this was my first month using tax free childcare and i am so confused how have u ended up with the £92? i don’t understand as i paid more then the £74??? also my childcare provider tried to take the money automatically however didnt work as i hadn’t transferred money over, when i did the tax free account deducted it but isnt showing up on my childcare app as paid??

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That’s the balance left in your account. Presumably after you’ve paid the provider. If you ever take money out the account you’re only entitled to the money you put in back, so they give a breakdown of your balance like this so you know how much is actually yours.

It takes a couple of days to show on my account as paid once the money has been transferred to my provider.

Did you manually put the money in after receiving the bill? That's how I do mine. I look at what the total bill is and then I put 80% into the tax free account. So if my bill was £100 I put £80 in, wait for them to top it up 20% to £100 and then transfer it over to my provider. I do it all manually because my bill changes a lot per month

yeah i put the money in once i got paid on friday, but as it was an automatic payment the provider tried to take it out of the account before i had chance to put the money in. so i can only presume the tax free account has tried to pay the provider and it maybe isnt showing then??

ive realised the £74 is the different between my bill and what the 80% would be however i still dont understand why it says i paid it in? its probably me just being stupid🤣

What is this ? How do I get it ?

Is this on top of that other funding ? Or is this apart of that funding? I’m so confused lol 😂

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