Making mum friends is hard!

I have a friend who I knew before I had my little one, who has two children with her youngest being 6 months older than my little one. She lives very close to me and made friends with another neighbour who also has two children similar ages to hers. Since having my little one, I have also made friends with this other mum and we’ve been on walks and to baby groups. We have a group chat and I seem to be the only one suggesting meeting up, however, they are constantly going on walks (they walk past my house whilst I’m sat in the lounge on my own feeding my baby) and hanging out just the two of them with their kids. My original friend was also invited to a birthday party for the other mum’s youngest and me and my little one were not. At this point it feels a little like they are rubbing it in my face. I’m not sure if I’ve done something wrong or if it’s simply a case of their kids being friends - am I being unreasonable?

I’m feeling very left out and low about the situation, I don’t have many friends and am finding maternity leave very lonely. I am not sure if I should say something and what I would even say, I don’t want to make it awkward with us being neighbours.

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I would say to just leave them be. If they want to be that way then let them. You deserve friends who want you around.

For what it’s worth, I experienced exactly the same thing. I even left a baby class early last week because I was so upset at being excluded over and over by these two mums I know. I’ve been on the phone to my parents in floods because I’m always left out and I’ve tried so hard to be nice and make a connection.

I’ve come to the conclusion that a lot of people are not being intentionally malicious, but they are clueless and otherwise ignorant to the feelings of others. I think that’s just as bad of a character fault, but that’s just my opinion.

Don’t take it to heart. I know that’s easier said than done, but I get the pain. Feel free to message me if you want to vent.

Or maybe try to tell them how you feel and ask them whether sth went wrong or where. Maybe there is a misunderstanding somewhere. If so, you can figure it out together and if not and they are leaving you behind on purpose, just know you are worth more than they are giving you and you deserve better love. There are better mums out there, maybe hard to find sometimes, but there are🥰

Create your own table Never ask or beg to have a seat at someone else’s table! Forget them don’t make it look like you’re begging for friends & make New Mom friends ignore them too! Take walks with other moms they don’t know too! Have parties & don’t invite them too! They are your neighbors and they are grown they know exactly what they are doing! Trying to do clique nonsense! Travel get your passport & have fun with your kids go to restaurants & just focus on your kids! Let them see you putting your luggage in your car to travel and get glammed up to go out nice places with your kids girl Just do you! You don’t want to look like you are begging for friends!

I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this, I know that feeling too well. Mum friends are so so hard to make 😔

You don’t deserve to feel like this, I honestly would just leave them be. Don’t waste your time on people that don’t appreciate you. It’s a hard pill to swallow but you’ll be happier in the long run ❤️

Making mom friend is harder because we, as adults need to get along and also our kids to have a good time too. Maybe she match better in these 2 aspects with the other mom? I would just find out other friendship that goes better with your needs and interests

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