Advice please, I’m honestly so upset😭

My little one is 21 months and has been at nursery since he was just over 12 months. Usually I get nothing but positive comments, he’s being a little testing lately especially when it comes to sharing - understandable it’s a lot for a young mind to comprehend obviously.

However today upon collection I was told he was better with his hands today. Some snatching here and there but normal for his age. Of course I appreciate the honestly it’s all a learning curve for a first time mum. But what’s sitting on my mind, and I’ve been upset ever since, is the language they used to describe his table manners.

He’s always been super, typical butter wouldn’t melt at home😂, he goes to soft play groups weekly, swimming, interacts with all my friends children - no issues.
But at nursery, it seems different. Today I was told my little boys table manners were atrocious. And I can’t get my head around the word? What can a little boy (not even 2) have done that’s so atrocious because he didn’t want to sit down on command and he’s been a little testing with the word “no”. The manager even came out when we were talking to his nursery worker to ensure she told us about his “atrocious” table mannerisms.

Am I over reacting? To me this is all a learning and testing curve for him. I understand a nursery is there to prepare him for bigger stages in his life but to use such words I’m baffled by.

Thank you - a very emotionally attached FTM♥️

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Did they explain to you what he did that was so “atrocious”? I’ve worked in all the rooms from babies to pre-schoolers and I have never used the word atrocious to describe a child’s manners or behaviour.

In the baby room (6-18months) I always say to parents that their little ones have been rather mischievous as let’s be honest a child up to the age of 12 months is more mischievous as they are learning and exploring. Toddler room (18 months - 2.5 years old) I normally say that we’ve had a few episodes of unkind hands and pushing boundaries. Pre-school (2.5 years old - 3 years old) I usually say to parents that we’ve had to have a little chat during their day as their behaviour wasn’t the best but in each instance it’s important to explain to parents what their child has been doing so they are aware x

They told me he wasn’t listening to sit down at the table with the other children and he often was telling them no? I don’t see that as such a horrible thing? Personally.
If he was throwing food and kicking and screaming then I would understand x

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