Am I wrong for not offering my baby a dummy?

I always said I didn’t want my baby having a dummy because I knew kids in school that still had dummy’s and heard parents talking about how hard it is to get their children to give the dummy up. So in my head I thought well if she never has a dummy that won’t be a problem right? But my baby is now 3.5 months and I keep seeing things about dummy’s reducing the risk of sids but I still don’t want to offer her one through fear of her becoming reliant on it.
So am I a bad mum for not giving her a dummy?

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We don’t use one and didn’t for my 2.5year old either x

Not at all, I never wanted to give my girl a dummy but I struggled for weeks and weeks getting her to settle as a newborn until one day I just gave it a try and life became easier 😂 I then decided I’d have the battle at getting it off her instead!

If you’re comfortable and don’t feel like you need a dummy I wouldn’t worry x

I didn’t give my first one for that reason! She wouldn’t miss something she’d never had so she never had one.

However I tried the same with my second and he wouldn’t settle at all so I gave in and gave him one, I feel like I’ll probably regret it but who knows!

My friend (when she wanted her baby to stop using the dummy) cut it at the end so it lost suction and her baby lost interest. We gave our 3 month old one cos she was teething and couldn't hold teething toys yet.

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