Letters to my child

There are some lovely journals which are for letters for daughter or son. Probably sounds like a stupid question but what kind of things would you write in the journal and how often would you go about writing in it? Would love to know anyone’s ideas as im thinking of getting one for each of my 3 children but not sure how I will find the time to keep writing in it for all 3 children.

in our community

Am I in the wrong?

Ok so it’s 1:42 pm and I tell my boyfriend I’m hungry and he responds with “your always hungry” mind you i have not eaten anything today. Which I tell him he responds with “I haven’t either and I’m not hungry and I’m bigger then you” mind you I’m exclusively breastfeeding his baby, I’m losing weight all the time due it plus not eating because of this shit he pulls. He also doesn’t want to ever go out to eat which I get but also doesn’t want buy groceries either. It’s not like I ask him to take me to some expensive restaurant I just wanted something cheap or a sandwich. Tired of the controlling and not having any say of the money even tho we both work together to make the money he controls all of it.

After pre school/reception

Can I ask what everyone actually does after school? My 3.5 years old is so tired when I pick her up at 3, we have a quick play in the park and home by 3.45ish she then just wants to watch TV till dinner time around 5, then she plays whilst I clear up then up stairs to get ready for bed at 6.30. She has a 11 month old sister who plays with her toys whilst the TV is on and then plays with her after dinner. I just feel like I should be doing more?

Chinese Takeaway

Hi! We're having Chinese takeaway for dinner tomorrow. I don't really like my almost 9 month old to have really unhealthy foods so will probably make her her own meal but before I do, is there anything from a Chinese that would be suitable for a baby?🩷

Am I wrong for wanting this 1 day still even now and should I let it go and get over it?

My youngest is 17 weeks and was prem and then and I gave birth via emergency c section alone. Dispite the in laws sitting with the other children and travelling a distance to be with them all weekend he chose to have fish n chips with them and relax a few hours before coming to see me and baby, tea breaks n fag breaks too no rushing. I was seperated from baby so my friend went on as birthing partner after to be with baby until I was well enough as I aspirated and nearly died and hemorrhaged which doctors called to tell him. He then briefly visited once and I was in for 3 days n he had a whole 2 sitters n parents who do everything. I got out of hospital very unwell, sore n struggling more than ever before and i asked for one day of being in the bedroom with baby for one day uninterrupted unless he wanted to make me a cuppa and a sandwich but for him to watch the kids n do housework n keep on top of things for one day so I could put the tele on, pig put on snacks n cuddle baby for a day. He refused its been 4 months n any time I ask for this one day I cant have it. Then a family event come up and its a drive of a few hours so I asked he takes the others as his family take over n would help anyway n he wouldnt do anything and I take this day with the baby. He freaked out..how will that look to them.. I cant cope with all the other kids on my own.. I want u there. May I add my bleeding was irregular so this day I just came on so heavily I was wearing 4 pads n soaking through by each hour. He also missed mothers day and my birthday this year and keeps starting arguments over petty things. I feel like booking me and baby in at a hotel just to have that time for like 24 hours. He had no issues last minute mid crazy busy time dinner, baths, medicines n housework n cleaning n laundry time 3 days in a row saying his popping out for a motorbike ride 3:30pm until 9/10pm then come back n complained i didnt out effort into dinner. Is it just expected that the woman cant have time? I also booked a pedicure (first one in 2 years) home visit one and asked him to be out n take the toddler he out the toddler to bed screaming 5 mins after the lady arrived n then went the opposite end n took a nap in the bedroom (one level home) he just ignored her so I couldnt get 1 hour either. He thinks theres nothing wrong with what I done because its life that I dont get pamper time as apparently he doesnt (does) 2 hour showers n 1 hour poops a day like give me strength.

Am I wrong for still craving that one day of peace and rest just one day? Is it too late and should I let it all go n get over it now?

Really upset by my boyfriend…

Last night my boyfriend asked if I wanted to have sex, and I told him I really wasn’t in the mood. It was late, I had wake up early, and I was exhausted and just really wanted to sleep. He chose to bitch about this and asked me to sleep on the couch, so I grabbed my charger/pillow and went to the couch. He came out about 30 minutes later and said if I didn’t get back in bed we were breaking up, and I pointed out that I just did what he told me to. He ignored me and I went into the room and fell asleep. He proceeded to wake me up multiple times for sex, and got very upset each time I said no. Then around 2am I woke up to him touching me, and I figured whatever let’s just do it so I can get some sleep. We did, and then he wanted to pillow talk for an hour after. I didn’t get to go to sleep again until closer to 4am, and then at 5:30-7am when I wake up, he began harassing me again for it and I ended up yelling at him because I just wanted to sleep. He said I was lazy and he doesn’t know how much sleep I planned to get when it was time to wake up. Then he was pissed I was tired and sluggish all morning, and told me off for that. Now I’ve been avoiding him all day. I am really pissed about the situation and don’t know how to address it.

Nurseries and screen time?

My son (3) is starting (council i.e. "preschool") nursery next week and I've just found out they do group screen time where they sit the kids down to watch Danny Go or "dancing strawberry" (no idea). I hate the thought of this and I am particularly worried as my son is hyper sensitive to overstimulating graphics (he had a type of seizure when watching a bright cartoon once, and complains about his eyes going funny if there's any flashing lights or graphics ever). Do I have any grounds to stand on in requesting they drop this? Is this common practice in nurseries?!

I had a chat with one of the nursery staff members today during our settling in, and explained my concern. Her only response was that they only do screen time "once in a while" which hasn't reassured me.