Dating and the guy wants to come over 🫢😂 HELP! So I share a 1 bedroom w/ my son and my new boo of 11 weeks has hinted at wanting to come over we go out weekly and have since I met him almost each week I can only hang out on weekends…

So anyway I hate my place I don’t like having people over bc of it and I’m afraid of being judged .. but I guess if he judges and leaves then he’s just not it ? Our apartment is super humble ! Window air conditioning units old floor heaters idk I’m just feeling self conscious so I was able to hold on to not having him over bc we hadn’t been intimate yet but we were this past weekend so now it just seems like why can’t he come lol am I tripping ? I want to be moved into a 2 bedroom by the holiday season this yr will start looking next month after I get a few things straightened out idk why I feel I have to be perfect but I do I’m 35 and he is 46 I’ve made bad choices and am picking up pieces and his life is very together! What do you ladies think am I tripping or would you be waiting to date ? I don’t want to miss out on the connection we have

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Personally I wouldn’t have him over when kiddos there. Too much room for craziness . Idk that’s just me

Let him come!! If he really likes you it wouldn't matter much. If anything that would encourage him to put a ring on it to have you and baby boy move in with him to a better home..

As long as the baby isn’t there, I don’t see the problem! A home is a home & at our big ages we shouldn’t judge each other (especially people we are intimate with) on how “fancy” our homes are when getting even the most humble place to stay is hard and expensive enough! In other words “judge all u want, at least i got my own!”

Girl I totally understand! It’s so easy to compare ourselves in this day and age but on the same foot, look at this day and age — aint nothing easy! Knowing u are taking care of ur child and they have everything they need, he’d be crazy to judge! I’ve had a friend in this situation and I used to always say to her (jokingly but to put it into perspective) “well why isn’t his place an option” (he might be in a similar situation feeling wise!!) in the long run, she got over it and the guy didn’t bat an eye!

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