Mother in Law

My mother in law disrespected me big time. Now she doesn’t get to see my son and my partner respect my wishes. Should I feel bad? I’ve tried to mend the bridge but at every turn she digs another hole. It’s so ackward at family events and I barely go and my son doesn’t attend either. I’m open to dialogue. I’ve given her so many chances but she keep burning the bridge then act clueless when I don’t come around with my son. She goes to the extreme to embarrass me or to cause me harm.

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When to start baby sensory?

When did you all start baby sensory classes? My baby is nearly 8 weeks, but unsure if he’ll fully benefit from it yet?

Days out with school

My child is starting school in September and at the information evening yesterday the teacher and headteacher were proudly telling us all how they love to take the class out to museums/woodlands/beaches on their mini bus. My immediate instinct was panic cos I would never put my son in a car without using a car seat and he will still only be 4-5 in September, this is too young to travel without a car seat?! To me this isn't the same as getting a bus. A bus makes frequent stops and doesn't really get over 30mph. A minibus could be flying down the motorway at 70mph.

Am I overthinking this and overreacting???

I'd like to hear other thoughts, thank you

Nursery vs childminder vs nanny

Hello! Please could you advise which you you will/have gone with and why?

Urgent- Toddler behaviour specialist - anyone hired one / know someone that has?

Has anyone ever hired one of these toddler behaviour management specialists who come to stay for a few days to help you better learnt to manage tricky toddler issues you’re struggling with.

It’s not cheap. But I’m a solo parent no extended family and feel I’m so in the dark with the tantrums I’m both confusing my daughter and a third of the time loosing my patience. It’s got really bad my lack of feeling I can’t do this with no guidance I’m dreading spending time with her 🤦🏼‍♀️

She’s super smart (smarter than I ever was) but I don’t have the skills, the support network. The help. And I’m reaching breaking point. Starting to feel like if I don’t get some outsider help I’ll damage our relationship and these are the crucial years. I need it for both myself and her.

Has anyone used one of these professionals, knows someone that has?

Before I use our only holiday fund to book one I’ve spoken to. (They’re not cheap 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️). Can anyone help shed some or any light in if this is a waste of money or it helped someone you know who did this?

Dating and the guy wants to come over 🫢😂 HELP! So I share a 1 bedroom w/ my son and my new boo of 11 weeks has hinted at wanting to come over we go out weekly and have since I met him almost each week I can only hang out on weekends…

So anyway I hate my place I don’t like having people over bc of it and I’m afraid of being judged .. but I guess if he judges and leaves then he’s just not it ? Our apartment is super humble ! Window air conditioning units old floor heaters idk I’m just feeling self conscious so I was able to hold on to not having him over bc we hadn’t been intimate yet but we were this past weekend so now it just seems like why can’t he come lol am I tripping ? I want to be moved into a 2 bedroom by the holiday season this yr will start looking next month after I get a few things straightened out idk why I feel I have to be perfect but I do I’m 35 and he is 46 I’ve made bad choices and am picking up pieces and his life is very together! What do you ladies think am I tripping or would you be waiting to date ? I don’t want to miss out on the connection we have

Child maintenance let's talk!

My sons dad is granted to pay 115.68 each week going through child maintenance but we decided between us to go private and direct which he then went to 70 pounds I did agree as something is better than nothing.
I'm that reasonable when special occasions around the corner I don't expect any payments.
Today his contacted me saying he wants to lower it another 20 pounds which would leave me with 50 pounds each week which by the way I do use it for every day essentials like shopping and what the child needs.
I can't be only one that finds it cheeky this guy is trying to lower it more than 50% than it should be.
From115.68
Down to 70
Now wanting to pay 50
Each week he pocket 65.68
Do I go back through the child maintenance services or simply try stand on my boundaries and let him know I do think his taking the piss a little.
Child maintenance is only so high because he has 1 over night stay every 1 -2 weeks .
Which again he was granted weekends and never stuck to them either ..
I have mentioned if child maintenance is gonna lower he needs to be having more contact in that sense as that's how it would calculate on the services also