How would you approach this? Trying to be discrete as she stalks my socials.
A former friend of mine recently contacted me to let me know that her cat died. She was very upset and was looking for reassurance, however I was still very angry with her regarding an incident earlier that day.
The reason why we aren't friends is because she has broken my trust in many ways. We are colleagues and she has been talking to people behind my back about mine and my son's health to other colleagues and mutual friends. Yes we aren't a picture of health but my son is happy and I'm fit to work. The things she says simply aren't true and I'm sick of her lies. The incident in question occurred when she was questioning my ability to care for my son infront of colleagues.
I distanced myself from her for this reason until she rang me out of the blue. She has lied before about her cat going missing for over a week when we didn't speak for over a month due to a seperate incident which included more of her lies. and a part of me isn't trusting that her cat has very sadly crossed the rainbow bridge. Her story didn't make sense.
Do I trust her and send my sympathies or is this another way for her to worm her way back in?
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I would maybe send a small condolences, and then go back to ignoring her. If you just ignore it she could try to turn that on you too to your coworkers to make you look bad
Ignore and if anything block her number 🤷‍♀️ she won’t know if you ever got the message or not unless have read recipes on or the delivered tick and if you do send condolences and then block her, negative people shouldn’t have access to you or your life 💕
If you think/know by sending sympathies she'll eventually just worm her way back in, cut it off. Just stay professional at work. Ignore her otherwise
She questioned your ability to care for your son in front of colleagues and now she’s texting you looking for sympathy because her cat died?
You are a better person than me OP, I would have messaged her back that her cat was better off dead without a lying POS owner like her, and maybe the cat died because her ability to care for it was lacking and she didn’t look after it properly. Savage? Maybe. But who gives a shit? She would certainly get the message that she can fuck off.
I’m guessing you never confronted her when she was chatting shit about you? Because why on earth would she think you are friends after carrying on like that? Not only would I have cussed her out there and then and put her straight, I also would have reported her to HR to make her lose her job.
I wouldn't bother replying as she might think you are reaching out an olive branch and that things can return to normal. Better to just ignore, im sure she has plenty of other people that can offer support. It isn't your problem
Y'all need to learn to stop being bff w COLLEAGUES. This is the result.
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