My mom lied she promised she’d helped before I moved in so I moved in

Idk what to do anymore my mom is ZERO help.. I caught my bd cheating so I moved back to TX bc she said she’ll help me with my son especially while I work .. she doesn’t help so I can eat or shower she’ll literally say no when I ask and flex’s to my family that I don’t have help I can’t eat or shower bc she doesn’t help
she says she’ll watch my son (3M) while I work and is unreliable
I let her know when I need to do things ahead of time
I had an interview for Sunday and had to reschedule she said she’d watch him so I could go to it she didn’t
Monday I was supposed to work from 12pm-4pm which again she knew ahead of time but didn’t show so I had to cancel
Yesterday I was supposed to be there at 330pm (it’s a 30 minute drive) she said she’d be home by noon.. didn’t get here until 320 I didn’t get there until 4!!

Now she’s telling me not to go back bc it’s 30mins away?! What sense does that make when I need to make money I’m a single mom providing for my son 100% without help from his father.

It’s pathetic I changed him and fed him before I left she didn’t have to do anything and he went to sleep at 5… she asked me where i was at 6pm when I’m done working at 630pm??? He was sleeping most of the time she had him.

I just don’t understand she doesn’t have a job she said she’d help me with him and isn’t. She cant even watch him while he’s sleeping.
She said she had somewhere to be so I rushed home.. it was a lie she went to bed as soon as I walked through the door she woke my son up and gave him to me then went to bed

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My mom was an unreliable mess and put me in bad situations too. I'm so sorry she's doing this to you.

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I’m so sorry, love. I can see how hurt and exhausted you are. It’s especially painful because you moved back believing you’d have her support, and she’s not following through.

As hard as it is, I think you may need to start planning as if you don’t have her help. That way you’re not constantly stressed or disappointed when she lets you down. Sometimes the people we expect to be there for us aren’t, and sometimes help comes from friends, other moms, or even people outside the family who are more reliable.

You’re doing an amazing job taking care of your little one on your own. ❤️

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See if the state have food stamps

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hey girlies! i wondered if anyone has been in a similar or is in a similar position to me.

i do not get along with MIL at all, when i was pregnant she made a lot of possessive remarks about my son and i brushed them off as during this time we were quite close but as soon as i gave birth to my son she started becoming way too much which broke the relationship between us.

she’d always make me feel like i wasn’t doing anything right when it came to my son, she also would take my son and say “you’ll love me more than your mum” just remarks that were madd to say to a mother who is postpartum.

there’s a whole lot more but we’d be here for days if i listed everything this woman said and did to me.

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living with her) but now she keeps begging my man to have my son once a week and i really don’t want my son around her especially one on one.

with how she acted when we was living with her and the things she’s said to me and behind my back i don’t trust her with my son. even though he’s too young to understand what she’s saying the thought of her sprouting negativity about me or playing mum with my son makes me feel uncomfortable.

i’ve managed to play the im breastfeeding so he can’t be away from me card but my man is starting to get persistent which is leading to arguments.

he knows how i feel about his mum and he knows all the things she’s said to me during the period we lived with her but he just keeps saying that’s still his mum and my sons grandma.

i understand that but she’s too obsessed with my son and it’s not right that she thinks it’s acceptable to talk down on me. she has no respect and i don’t want to be around her at all.

she made the first months of me being a mum so miserable, made me question myself a lot and just made me feel so shitty.

when i confronted my mans mum and his sister (his sister was also trying to play mum with my son) about the way they spoke to me and made me feel they didn’t own up or apologise and instead made it seem like it wasn’t that deep.

i just don’t know how i can get through to my man , i’ve expressed so many times how i feel and he just isn’t hearing it.

my man works very long hours so he doesn’t get back from work until around 9pm and he’s recently expressed that he will start getting his mum to reach out to me about our son.

she hasn’t yet messaged me but i plan to not reply 😭

i just don’t know how i can get through to my man. i don’t want to even do supervised visits because it will just be me and her and when we’re alone she uses that chance to start with her remarks.

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