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Hey girls, so since having my son I seem to have lost my friends and I’ve struggled to make any new ones.
I’m 21, my son will be 3 in 11 days, it’s just me and him and always has been. We live in the West Midlands, England. Im hoping to find someone I can go out with as myself not just “mum” but also someone for play dates, days out, support etc.

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I’ll start by saying …I don’t care for sex ! It’s cool or whatever but I could go the rest of my life not having sex and I’d be cool! I enjoy pleasing myself but it’s all mid to me ! I’ve been this way since I was a teenager …it’s not for me! With that being said my husband and I have known eachother since grade school, we dated in college, had A LOT of sex for years, now have 9 kids and despite popular belief we don’t do it often! We’ve struggled a bit and dealt with homelessness for a great deal of our grown up relationship and even in our own home it was always something. My husband developed a gambling problem after we had our 3rd child and it’s just been down hill since then, that was in 2017! I say that to say ontop of it not being a care for me …life absolutely got in the way and turned me off! The person he became turned me off and I don’t know how to explain this to him without being cruel. He is overly sexual and could and wants to do something sexual everyday and all day! He says it’s how he feels connected to me. Makes him feel wanted and when I don’t give it to him he feels rejected! I take all the blame because I know that I deprive him him more than normal but at the same time he should understand why, whether that’s my personal reasons or him turning me off. He truly is my bestfriend. -A lot of women get the raw end of the deal and I don’t feel like I have. He goes to work, he’s the one that cooks, he’s a great dad day to day & would give me the world! He used to give understanding because he’s know I don’t care for sex but now it’s an active argument in our marriage. I don’t know what to do. I tell him if he would step up as a man it might make me wanna to have sex but instead he feels like I should just give it to him! Suck his d*ck cause he had a bad day! Am I wrong ? I’ve never worried about him cheating honestly that’s never been a thing between us but now he’s like “I need a gf” “you keep saying you don’t like it but gave it to this guy and that guy why not me.” Etc I dont want to give in but tired of this being a thing! Sometimes I find myself thinking “can this just be over” and the sex is good, I just don’t want to!

MIL wants regular contact and once a week just my son and her

hey girlies! i wondered if anyone has been in a similar or is in a similar position to me.

i do not get along with MIL at all, when i was pregnant she made a lot of possessive remarks about my son and i brushed them off as during this time we were quite close but as soon as i gave birth to my son she started becoming way too much which broke the relationship between us.

she’d always make me feel like i wasn’t doing anything right when it came to my son, she also would take my son and say “you’ll love me more than your mum” just remarks that were madd to say to a mother who is postpartum.

there’s a whole lot more but we’d be here for days if i listed everything this woman said and did to me.

luckily we moved away (we were initially
living with her) but now she keeps begging my man to have my son once a week and i really don’t want my son around her especially one on one.

with how she acted when we was living with her and the things she’s said to me and behind my back i don’t trust her with my son. even though he’s too young to understand what she’s saying the thought of her sprouting negativity about me or playing mum with my son makes me feel uncomfortable.

i’ve managed to play the im breastfeeding so he can’t be away from me card but my man is starting to get persistent which is leading to arguments.

he knows how i feel about his mum and he knows all the things she’s said to me during the period we lived with her but he just keeps saying that’s still his mum and my sons grandma.

i understand that but she’s too obsessed with my son and it’s not right that she thinks it’s acceptable to talk down on me. she has no respect and i don’t want to be around her at all.

she made the first months of me being a mum so miserable, made me question myself a lot and just made me feel so shitty.

when i confronted my mans mum and his sister (his sister was also trying to play mum with my son) about the way they spoke to me and made me feel they didn’t own up or apologise and instead made it seem like it wasn’t that deep.

i just don’t know how i can get through to my man , i’ve expressed so many times how i feel and he just isn’t hearing it.

my man works very long hours so he doesn’t get back from work until around 9pm and he’s recently expressed that he will start getting his mum to reach out to me about our son.

she hasn’t yet messaged me but i plan to not reply 😭

i just don’t know how i can get through to my man. i don’t want to even do supervised visits because it will just be me and her and when we’re alone she uses that chance to start with her remarks.

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