Close friendships after 30

I'm a 38 year old woman and have lived in Melbourne my whole life. I feel like I'm the only person I know who has little to no close friends/best friends. I have had close friendships through the years, highschool, uni, new jobs. But I feel like in the past 5 to 10 years they've all fizzled out. One of my closest friends has moved interstate. We catch-up when she comes to Melbourne over Christmas, and check-in via text sporadically but not consistently. I have another old friend from uni who I catch-up with twice a year, but it's always with our families not 1:1. I have made some mum friends over the last couple of years, and still see one semi-regularly but usually more in the play date context rather than 1:1. I honestly don't know how I have managed to not have any close girlfriends at my age. Am I the only one?!

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Bi-curious

I’m in so deep mentally over my curiosity , anyone else’s the same?

If your partner committed a crime and got a jail sentence, would it be akin to them cheating on you in the sense of it being that big of a betrayal?

That’s how I feel. It would be an absolute betrayal to do something so stupid that it landed him in jail and took him away from his family and all his responsibilities. It’s selfish.

Context, me and my partner are having a debate.

If you were interested in someone but at last minute disclosed to you that they were “happily” married. Would you continue to entertain?

This person came up to you by the way and asked for your number and wanted ti get to know you more.

Mommy’s-to-be

Hi everyone ❤️

I'm currently pregnant with a baby boy (my first baby)and finding myself feeling really lonely lately. I have friends, but none of them are on the same journey as me, so it's hard to talk about pregnancy, baby excitement, worries, milestones, and all the things that are constantly on my mind. Most of the time they just don't really get it or aren't interested, and I completely understand that, but it still feels isolating.

I'd love to find some genuine mom friends or other expecting moms who want to chat, share updates, celebrate the little things, and support each other through pregnancy and motherhood. I spend so much time thinking about my son and preparing for this next chapter, and it would be nice to have people who understand that excitement.

If you're expecting, a new mom, or just looking for a friend too, I'd love to connect. 💙

Helppp

what are we getting our mans for first father’s day

I DONT like it

I’ll start by saying …I don’t care for sex ! It’s cool or whatever but I could go the rest of my life not having sex and I’d be cool! I enjoy pleasing myself but it’s all mid to me ! I’ve been this way since I was a teenager …it’s not for me! With that being said my husband and I have known eachother since grade school, we dated in college, had A LOT of sex for years, now have 9 kids and despite popular belief we don’t do it often! We’ve struggled a bit and dealt with homelessness for a great deal of our grown up relationship and even in our own home it was always something. My husband developed a gambling problem after we had our 3rd child and it’s just been down hill since then, that was in 2017! I say that to say ontop of it not being a care for me …life absolutely got in the way and turned me off! The person he became turned me off and I don’t know how to explain this to him without being cruel. He is overly sexual and could and wants to do something sexual everyday and all day! He says it’s how he feels connected to me. Makes him feel wanted and when I don’t give it to him he feels rejected! I take all the blame because I know that I deprive him him more than normal but at the same time he should understand why, whether that’s my personal reasons or him turning me off. He truly is my bestfriend. -A lot of women get the raw end of the deal and I don’t feel like I have. He goes to work, he’s the one that cooks, he’s a great dad day to day & would give me the world! He used to give understanding because he’s know I don’t care for sex but now it’s an active argument in our marriage. I don’t know what to do. I tell him if he would step up as a man it might make me wanna to have sex but instead he feels like I should just give it to him! Suck his d*ck cause he had a bad day! Am I wrong ? I’ve never worried about him cheating honestly that’s never been a thing between us but now he’s like “I need a gf” “you keep saying you don’t like it but gave it to this guy and that guy why not me.” Etc I dont want to give in but tired of this being a thing! Sometimes I find myself thinking “can this just be over” and the sex is good, I just don’t want to!