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I’m 32 weeks pregnant and don’t have a high sex drive at all but me and my bf still have sex when he ask (if not a handjob) recently I’ve heard him pleasuring himself in the shower and have seen him doing it on accident…I smell my lotion on him (what he uses for lube) I’ve confronted him about it telling him I felt uncomfortable and I felt like I wasn’t pleasing him enough but he lies about it until I get the truth out of him but still continues to do it I could understand if we didn’t have sex but we do and he does this everytime he’s in the shower or even bathroom….he also says he’s looking at our sex tapes that we did in the past but deep down I don’t believe that’s what he’s looking at. Please give advice or help me 🥹

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If you dont have a high sex drive then dont have sex. Youre close to giving birth and i can imagine how uncomfortable it must be aswell. If he wants to self pleasure let him? Aslong as he isnt out there cheating or seeking other women

Hey! I totally understand the lack of a sex drive, I was the same while pregnant, and my dude has done the same. How he explained it to me really helped me get out of my head about it, and I hope it helps you too!

Explanation from my dude:
Sometimes he feels like he's in a mood, but doesn't actually want to have sex (because it's a lot of work, honestly, for the dude and for the partner) and self pleasure only takes like 5-10 minutes instead of a longer period of time. It's not that he doesn't want to have sex with you, it's just that sometimes it's just wanting to get the pleasure without all of the work sex takes - so self pleasure takes care of that.

Hormones are insane while pregnant, and honestly with PP too, but I can almost guarantee that it's not that he doesn't enjoy having sex with you, or that you don't satisfy him enough. Sometimes it's just easier to get it out of the way with self pleasure rather than full blown sex.
It could also be that he's worried about hurting the baby (1/2)

Because you're so far along, but that's something that I'd talk with him about, because I don't want to make any assumptions.
I really hope the feelings pass, because it's honestly so hard to deal with mentally.
I hope you have a great day/night/evening today, truly 🫶🏻 (2/2)

Not tryna be rude but he gotta get off somehow if he has a higher sex drive. He might jus be doing that to please himself so he isn’t pushing you too much u know

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