Mental health

This is long, you don't even have to read it. I think i just needed to vent 😵‍💫

Anyone else really struggling mentally?
I am 39 weeks and so so excited to meet my baby.
I can't tell if it's my hormones that have taken over or if it's just how I'm feeling but I cry a lot at least twice a day and it's not a little either it's full on sobbing for over half an hour.
The main thing that is getting to me is how much pain I'm in, it's stopping me from doing anything I could possibly enjoy. It's the kind of pain that you just can't focus on anything else and even just being sat is so painful I'm struggling to read or crochet or even just watching TV the pains so forefront in my mind I just start crying at how frustrated I am I can't do anything without it being there. I've still been mostly managing to do the household things I need to do so that's something and if I can't my partner is more than happy to step in and help.
Got a lot of personal stuff going on with family too and it's all just so much for me.
Also thinking a lot about how overwhelmed I'll be when everyone comes to see the baby I have a massive family and my partners is big too. We're both 1 of 9 children (he only speaks to half of his siblings tho). I have 13 neices and nephews too it's gonna be crazy here. Obviously they won't all come at the same time but even just the waves of that many people is going to be so overwhelming and their all going to want to take my baby from me and if I say no or try set boundaries I know I'll get berated and belittled and they'll think I'm a bitch because that's not really how my family really works.
I just want my baby here 🥲 I know I'll be in so many other pains and I'll be so tired but at least I'll have him to focus on and the pains will start to fade over time.
I have a big feeling I'm going overdue though. And I keep getting into my head when I'm crying that there's no chance I'm gonna go into labour while I'm feeling so low, because it feels like theres 0 oxytocin in my life right now 🫠

in our community

When is it weird?

I've seen a handful of posts talking about nudity in the house around young kids and I feel like it's agreed that it's normal for there to be a naked mom or to see mom naked, but my question is if it applies to dad? Is mom allowed to be naked (not in a creepy way obvi) but Dad has to be covered all the time? Is it okay if Dad is seen naked getting out of the shower/getting dressed?? Is it okay if he's boxers only in the house? And bath time, can they take a bath/shower with Dad while they're still little (like 6 or younger). Does it change if it's a son or daughter? If theres an age where it changes what is it?
**not including any weird or over sexualized behavior or motives because that's a separate topic and obviously those cases aren't ever okay**

People not understanding baby/toddler is leading to meltdowns.

My 13 month old is very chatty and has about 20 words. He has about 5-6 very clear words and the rest are unclear, for example eeee for tree or hop for help.

He gets incredibly frustrated when left with other family members as they cannot understand what he is saying (not at nursery). This often leads to throwing himself on the floor, throwing objects or getting upset. Often this happens because he is asking for something, like help or certain thing and the other person doesn’t understand.

Does anyone have this problem? Or a similar problem.

C section mums

How long after did you have sex? Just wondering

Feeding

How many ounces is everyone’s baby on?
My 1 month old is on 4 and seems to still be hungry after bottles, but looking at the recommended dosage on the back of the tin of milk 5 ounces is usually for a 3 month old!

Daughter showing signs she wants a pillow

When did you all introduce pillows to your little ones? My daughter is turning one next week. During her naps and sometimes when we cosleep, she seems to seek out something to use as a pillow. Is she still too young to introduce one?

Weaning off formula

Hey ladies, how did you wean your baby off formula and how quickly do I need to do this? My baby just turned 1 year old. She's still on between 300 - 500mls of formula per day. We are trying to limit formula during the day but she's waking up hungry overnight. I feed her 3 main meals and I'm trying to bulk up the snacks as well. She refuses toddler formula, cows milk or any combo, so it's still infant formula. She's also been sick so we are hesitant to change too much right now. Any advice on this would be appreciated 🙏