Independent to dependent

Hey guys! Before having my beautiful baby girl I was very independent and always made my own money and contributed financially to my and my husbands life. He never asked but that’s just how I was raised and how I’ve always been. After having my baby I became a SAHM because we didn’t have anyone we trusted to watch the baby and he DOES NOT want to put her in daycare. Which I completely understand plus the daycares in our area are WAYYYY expensive. So expensive that if I went back to work my whole check would just be going to them and honestly I am not gonna go to work just to have the whole thing go to someone else and we’d be in the same situation regardless if I worked or not. We’re doing fine financially and bills are paid and she is taken care of but that’s it. We don’t have anyone extra money for fun stuff which is fine at the end of the day. I just feel guilty that my husband is picking up all the stress by himself and we’re living paycheck to paycheck where as before it wasn’t like this. I also have a degree that I’m not using and that also makes me feel guilty. I guess what I am looking for is how do I feel more comfortable being a SAHM. I just am trying not to make myself feel selfish and guilty for not contributing when I’m so use to it.

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Husband saw my vibrator

I messed up and am so embarrassed!!

I know most of you won’t relate to this, but my husband and I have been on an extended dry spell which I won’t go into but basically it’s on me. But I still masturbate occasionally because a mom’s gotta let out stress somehow.

Well I’ve been very good throughout this whole time of not letting it be known that I still masturbate, because my excuse for not having sex has always been that I’m just not in the mood and don’t want to be touched. But last night I messed up and left my vibrator out on the nightstand and I know my husband had to have seen it when he got home because he made our bed.

He didn’t say anything and neither did I but I felt mortified, and worried it hurt him to see that. 😭

Am I being sensitive?

My partner and I have been trying for 2 1/2 years to conceive our third. For over a year, my partner has been taking hCG shots because he was on TRT. At the start of this year, we got an analysis and turns out everything looked good on his end. Never thought it would be a me issue, but I started to work with a fertility specialist and everything checked out until our HSN they found polyps and I need surgery. It’s going to cost $1700 which he will pay. However, the surgery is an hour away and although he works from home, he says he has to work and said I should Uber or have a family member take me. All my support lives an hour in the opposite direction. So it would be an hour to me, hour to the surgery and then back to me and back home. Would you be upset? I just wanna know if I’m too sensitive. He is paying the surgery should last no longer than 45 minutes, but I am being put out and nervous. Just looking for feedback.

Toddler in his emptying everything phase😩

My little boy will be 2 in September and for the last few weeks he’s had a sudden impulse to empty everything containing liquid🙃 cans, bottles, cups, the cats water bowl…and it’s driving me insane! Every day multiple times a day I’m having to clean the sofa or wipe the floor, almost broke my neck in the kitchen this morning!!

My question is, when does this phase end? I’m over it😑😑😑

What "Healthy snacks" do you feed your kids?

Do we just buy food to make snacks or prepared snacks?

Nursery fees

Interested to know if anyone has got a nursery sorted and how much they’re paying for how many days… I’m in shock that it’ll cost us nearly £400 a month for 3x days WITH funded hours. Wtf!!!

How do you deal with your child reaching out for candy, junk food or soda?

I have a mom friend who does not allow her child to eat any sugar, burger or fries. I respect that decision but she subtly judged me when my kid was given fries and pop from a kids menu. This happened last year. Fast forward to today her kid started preschool and he goes bonkers over muffins and other sweet treats. Even at home he demands that she make fried or sugary foods. While mine now is not a big fan of icecreams or fries. What Im trying to say is that if we depict something to be a NO NO with children, it creates some sort of a reverse psychology and they go YES YES. I give my kid an option to choose but ALSO educate on why junk and sugary foods are bad. Her teacher tells me she was drinking cola and my kid told her ‘soda bad for health’
Kids are very intelligent than what we give them credit for.