So fed up

I want to pluck up the courage to leave my partner but I’m scared of the reality of being on my own. We’ve got two under two. We live in a very small 1 bedroom flat. There’s a lot of pressure between us neither of us respect each other anymore. Sometimes it’s good but not enough for me to stay but I just can’t leave for some reason so I feel so trapped. Financially I would be fine without him. Logistically I would be fine ish without him. I don’t drive and we live first floor so it’s hard taking the dog out or the kids out on my own but I could manage. Mentally I’d be better off without him but it’s just hard right now and has been for a long time.

I guess I’m just venting but idk anymore. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I feel we’re beyond the “you need to communicate better with eachother” point as it’s constant cycles of the same shit day in day out

in our community

Am I being sensitive?

My partner and I have been trying for 2 1/2 years to conceive our third. For over a year, my partner has been taking hCG shots because he was on TRT. At the start of this year, we got an analysis and turns out everything looked good on his end. Never thought it would be a me issue, but I started to work with a fertility specialist and everything checked out until our HSN they found polyps and I need surgery. It’s going to cost $1700 which he will pay. However, the surgery is an hour away and although he works from home, he says he has to work and said I should Uber or have a family member take me. All my support lives an hour in the opposite direction. So it would be an hour to me, hour to the surgery and then back to me and back home. Would you be upset? I just wanna know if I’m too sensitive. He is paying the surgery should last no longer than 45 minutes, but I am being put out and nervous. Just looking for feedback.

What "Healthy snacks" do you feed your kids?

Do we just buy food to make snacks or prepared snacks?

Independent to dependent

Hey guys! Before having my beautiful baby girl I was very independent and always made my own money and contributed financially to my and my husbands life. He never asked but that’s just how I was raised and how I’ve always been. After having my baby I became a SAHM because we didn’t have anyone we trusted to watch the baby and he DOES NOT want to put her in daycare. Which I completely understand plus the daycares in our area are WAYYYY expensive. So expensive that if I went back to work my whole check would just be going to them and honestly I am not gonna go to work just to have the whole thing go to someone else and we’d be in the same situation regardless if I worked or not. We’re doing fine financially and bills are paid and she is taken care of but that’s it. We don’t have anyone extra money for fun stuff which is fine at the end of the day. I just feel guilty that my husband is picking up all the stress by himself and we’re living paycheck to paycheck where as before it wasn’t like this. I also have a degree that I’m not using and that also makes me feel guilty. I guess what I am looking for is how do I feel more comfortable being a SAHM. I just am trying not to make myself feel selfish and guilty for not contributing when I’m so use to it.

How do you deal with your child reaching out for candy, junk food or soda?

I have a mom friend who does not allow her child to eat any sugar, burger or fries. I respect that decision but she subtly judged me when my kid was given fries and pop from a kids menu. This happened last year. Fast forward to today her kid started preschool and he goes bonkers over muffins and other sweet treats. Even at home he demands that she make fried or sugary foods. While mine now is not a big fan of icecreams or fries. What Im trying to say is that if we depict something to be a NO NO with children, it creates some sort of a reverse psychology and they go YES YES. I give my kid an option to choose but ALSO educate on why junk and sugary foods are bad. Her teacher tells me she was drinking cola and my kid told her ‘soda bad for health’
Kids are very intelligent than what we give them credit for.

School for my boys..

I just wanted to share something funny that I’m sure we’ve all done or will do when are kids are not with us.

My kids started school for the summer for a couple hours, so when I get back I do as much as I can while they’re gone.
Today I’m catching up on the piles of clean clothes I need to fold.
& as I sit on my bed and put the tv on I automatically go to Netflix on my kids account to put on a kid show 😂
Instead of my account to find a show for myself.. thought it was really funny & trying to get accustomed of doing things for me while they’re at school.

Holiday Guilt

Anyone else gone on holiday with their 16/17 month old and completely regretted it? We are currently in Spain and I can’t believe how hard it is. We are with family however as my son is teething he just wants me and booobs 🥵 there are hazards everywhere, all the flooring is rock solid shiny stone, hot and slippy flooor by the pool with little steps to different levels, doesn’t really like being in his pram but also just runs away on reins (or tries and pull the other way and just falls over) I just feel like I should be having the best time like I ‘see’ on social media but it’s soooo difficult!!!