To go back to work or not .. 😅

Hello everyone !!
I’m in a predicament currently and looking for other people’s experiences .
Just wondering if anyone on here planned to go back to work but then didn’t after mat leave . How are you getting on financially ( if you don’t mind answering) . Is sahm life worth it . Do you have any side hustles or ideas to make an income while at home . How did it change your relationship with your partner ? Do you feel dependent ? Please share your experience on why or why not you did or didn’t go back 🩷

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I have no advice but just commenting so I can come back to this (I hope you don't mind). I was planning on returning to work however, now that the little one if here I don't want to until she is older. My partner is fully supportive of me not going back to work but I am also wondering the same x

I always thought I’d have to go back. Wasn’t til I was on mat leave and thought about it properly that I realised we could make it work if I stayed home.
Financially we are fine - we can afford all our bills on one income, plus money for food and some treats. We can’t really save anything at the moment but if we tried being stricter we could. I overhauled our finances before quitting. Cheaper deals on all bills where possible, we shop reduced/in bulk/batch cook/meal plan. Use freebie pages/apps for food and non food items, use charity shops/vinted for clothes toys books etc.
SAHM life is definitely worth it, I’m 3 years in now.
No side hustles except selling bits on vinted.
Relationship is as strong as ever.
I don’t feel dependent - I’ve had my time being the bigger earner, and contributing to our lives, and now it’s his time. I do a lot of planning/cooking/financial heavy lifting and we split cleaning and parenting 50/50 when he’s home.

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My partner is annoyed that we aren't having sex

So I'm 2 months pp and stitches are barely healed. We have 2 under 2, I'm breastfeeding both and we co sleep with both. We went for a family day out the other day and the next day he's just an asshole. He's being horrible to both me and our daughter and later tells me he's in a bad mood because I didn't surprise him with sexual favours to say thank you for the day out. He said if I can't have sex I should've done something else for him. There isn't one second of the day I'm not with the babies. I do not leave them to sleep in the room together if I'm not there and tbh they wouldn't sleep anyway. We actually only have one bedroom too. He won't allow anyone else in the family to care for the babies so I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. Few days later and I'm still perplexed. What's the solution? Also we were having sex right up until I gave birth so I feel like it hasn't even been that long. And after all of this he's now said he's going to treat me like his sister and he's refusing to communicate with me and just being an asshole.

I think I messed my life up🥺.

Please don’t judge guys… I’ve been with this person for 3 years now. When we first met he lied about everything . How many kids he have ( he told me 2 but has 7 ) also his living situation. He told me he lost his place when he did 5 years in jail and is renting a room at his aunts which he took me over there MULTIPLE times.. i eventually found out it’s his babymothers house… it’s just so much I can go on and on but I don’t want to wrap you guys up about it. Now im currently 24 weeks pregnant by him. When I first found out I told him right away I did not want to keep it I wanted an abortion it’s dumb to me to have a child with a man that still stays with his babymother.. he promised me we would move we went apartment hunting and everything but here we are now still have not moved… im getting nervous I feel like time is moving fast . Also the babymom found out I was pregnant like a month ago . I don’t know if he lied his way out if that or told her the truth at this point especially because he lied so much about the kids in the beginning and before she “found out” he was over my house literally every night now he barely comes. Im really sad I feel like I should have went with my instinct and not kept the baby. I don’t have space to bring him home with me. I was literally in my party era of life since my 3 year old is potty trained and talking so I was comfortable sending him to family members while I went out now im stuck all over again because I THOUGHT I was settling down to build a family not be a second life to him….

Is it just me or…

Is it just me or have you found people on here that you chat with but it just dies off ?? Am I that dry??? 😂😂😂😂

If there are people that actually want a friendship and to actually chat longer then a week feel free to message me!!

I am around for the long haul!!

Would only getting a child a couple gifts from us be enough for a birthday?

Would love to get more but unfortunately I can’t afford much and I have family who will be getting him some bigger gifts anyway.
But the pressure from seeing other families get their kids a huge pile makes me feel guilty. Money is already tight and I wished I could get all the ideas I have.

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Just looking for Momma Friends

Don't care where your located, just dont have a lot of friends. My life has been bit of a dumpster fire and all of my friends quit talking to me because of some life choices I made.