Nearly 6 months and still waking every 1-2 hours overnight. I’M TIRED
We have taken a side off of his cot and attached it to our bed and my baby sleeps there. He still wakes every 1-2 hours for a feed (he sometimes will do a random 2.5 hour stretch if we’re lucky). I have to feed him (EBF) every time he wakes or he kicks off and screams and screams and screams (my parter has tried to settle him but he cries so much he coughs and starts to choke on his saliva 😢). I’ve tried other ways to settle him, occasionally tapping his head will work (for maybe 1 wake).
I’m following wake windows, I keep him stimulated during the day, take him out for walks, swimming, baby classes etc. He sleeps a ‘normal’ amount of time for his naps. We’ve got blackout blinds, make sure the room is a good temperature, stick to the same bedtime routine. I feed him in his cot, he then rolls onto his tummy and goes to sleep.
I don’t know what I’m doing wrong 😩 I feel maybe he’s started to reverse feed? As in he gets most of his calories overnight instead of during the day. I try to offer him the breast as much as possible but he will only take one breast and be done after 5 minutes whereas he can stay on my breast overnight for 15 mins +. I’ve read I need to stop feeds overnight so he’s hungry in the day time but I can’t do that as he screams so badly!
Any advice / tips / reassurance would be great! Thank you x
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I don't know where to begin but I feel like I'm drowning. Before I say anything else, of course I am safe. My son is 7 months old and he is a very energetic happy boy, but I have never felt the same since before I was pregnant.
I am in that stage of postpartum where I don't know who I am and I don't recognise myself. I have tried therapy and it just wasn't helping me. The endless nights of watching your partner go to bed but knowing that the bottles have to be washed and the laundry needs to be done, so you've got to pick the priority and that's your child's stuff. There are nights that I don't go to bed until 1 a.m. and days without showers. Keep in mind I am a uni student as well.
I'm at this point in motherhood where I feel so trapped. I've been told to go to mothers' groups but just the thought of getting out of the house is so incredibly hard. I've reached out to online mothers' groups and tried to make friends but it hasn't really worked.
I don't know how many other mums feel like this, where they just stare at their baby monitor every night, knowing that it's going to be Groundhog Day the next day. Feeling trapped inside their home with a young one, putting all of your priority into them but knowing that the time limit on their nap is so short that nothing can be done anyway.
It's a bit of a raw and real post but this is what stage of motherhood I am in. I would say I'm not enjoying it and I'm not thriving and I don't have my village. If any other mums feel like this, I would encourage you to comment. I hope I'm not the only one.
