Recovery advice

I’m nearly 3 weeks PP and have started experiencing a sharp pain in the edges of my scar. It’s not constant and I have checked the wound, it’s clean and has no rash or anything around it but it’s still quite painful. I’ve been pretty active since I left hospital, out for short walks and such and trying to do things so I’m not sure if I have overdone it and just have my body telling me to slow it down or if it’s something I should be concerned about.
Thanks for any advice!

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Car Seat

Hiya girlies,
My 6mo is pretty tall and she’s already outgrown her car seat. Could anyone recommend any good value car seats, preferably online as it’d be easier to get?
Amazon would be a good shout, but even like Argos or something works too.

Thanks in advance xxx

I let my baby cry it out

My baby is 3 months old. We’re not officially starting sleep training but today has been brutal. He had been up for 4 hrs and was so fussy because he was exhausted, but he would not go to sleep. I tried nursing him to sleep, rocking him to sleep, walking around the house with the baby carrier, walking around without the baby carrier, laying him down on the bed next to me, having sensory time in his playgym, reading to him, singing to him, NOTHING was working. So I laid him down in his cot awake and fussy and sat downstairs watching on the monitor. He cried for about 10 minutes, then fell asleep.

I feel like a terrible mom that I couldn’t soothe him to sleep, he was just so overtired nothing was working. He’s fast asleep now but I don’t know if what I did was right. I told myself 10 minutes and if he’s still crying I’ll go try to soothe him again. But as I was literally getting up to get him, he went from crying to silence. I went in to make sure he was ok anyways because the immediate change from crying to not kind of scared me, but he was totally fine. Fast asleep.

Is it ok to let him cry himself to sleep occasionally at this age?

Sleeping

My daughter has just turned four and she still wakes up multiple times a night.

We have trialled later bed time/ earlier, bath before bed, making sure she has something like porridge to eat before bed. Letting her have tv/ no tv. We have tried night light no night light. We have altered her room lay out

She is put in bed about 7 she stays up until 11ish then she wake up around 2am and stay up until 7ish then wake up around 8 for the day she has no day naps and doesn’t seem tired

Any suggest please 🙂

What would you do?

I queried something with my health visitor today and she said to be giving her 600mls per day. As she gained 2lbs in just 2 weeks but she's used to having an average of 884mls a day. Would you try and cut down on the milk or just continue whats working? She's 4 months old. She was gaining weight at a nice steady pace but she's shot up on the centiles in a short frame of space. She's had more than 600mls a day for over a month. So wouldn't even know where or how to do it. HV didn't tell me how just said 600mls. She's not sick or in any pain. She's happy in herself and she knows when she's full as she pulls away from the bottle and doesn't go back. So do I follow what I'm told or just keep doing what am doing?

Losing People due to life changes

So I got married last November. Pretty much conceived on my honeymoon. And we are now expecting our babygirl at the end of August. With all the life changes that have happened to me in the past year. I have notice I have lost some friends who can't grasp that my life has changed and will continue to change. Because my child ain't going no where. And will always be my priority. My priorities are different and it's like these Gen z friends of mine just don't get it. It's been low-key annoying and stressing me out because I'm like umm I can't change being pregnant and I can't change that I'm a wife, stepmom, and gma all at the same time now. My life is different. And I'm being penalized 😔 anyone else going or gone through this type of bullshit. It's why I hang with my generation and older normally. Cause zillennial (young ass millennials) and gen z just cut different (in a very immature way) .

Would it turn you off if someone you started talking to asked how your kid is doing instead of saying daughter?

He knows I have a daughter