Losing People due to life changes

So I got married last November. Pretty much conceived on my honeymoon. And we are now expecting our babygirl at the end of August. With all the life changes that have happened to me in the past year. I have notice I have lost some friends who can't grasp that my life has changed and will continue to change. Because my child ain't going no where. And will always be my priority. My priorities are different and it's like these Gen z friends of mine just don't get it. It's been low-key annoying and stressing me out because I'm like umm I can't change being pregnant and I can't change that I'm a wife, stepmom, and gma all at the same time now. My life is different. And I'm being penalized 😔 anyone else going or gone through this type of bullshit. It's why I hang with my generation and older normally. Cause zillennial (young ass millennials) and gen z just cut different (in a very immature way) .

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I’m 38 and usually try to stick to my age range or older.

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I’m a zillennial, and so are most of my friends. I am the only one out of all my friends who is married and has kids. Despite that, I’ve gotten nothing but support and love from everyone. True friends, regardless of age, understand that life gets busy and will be understanding of that, even if they are in a different season than you. If they are true friends, start by talking to them about how they are making you feel. If that doesn’t resolve anything, it may be time to let go..

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I’m not sure how old you are or how old your friends are but I think it comes to life style. I’m 40. Most of my friends are childless. My 32 yr old and 38 yr old friends cannot grasp that our life has changed and are maybe a little mad about it. My 32 yr old friend straight up told me that my having my son solidified that she doesn’t want kids. It is all about the person, not the age.

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Hey girl I’m Jahida and I’m older and have older kids so I’m down to talk if u would like

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