Disappointed

Had my anatomy scan today, I laid on that bed for an hour and 15 minutes and the tech didn’t say one word to me we didn’t get to listen to his heartbeat and we didn’t even get to see him 😔 I got in the car and just started crying my eyes out. This is nothing like my first pregnancy. I havnt seen him since my first appointment….. my heart is broken rn.

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aww mama i’m so sorry you had this kind of experience, did you say anything about seeing baby during the appointment ? or why you couldn’t ? usually you also get pictures you didn’t get any of those either ?

Did you miscarry? Or they just didnt say anything at all ? That's crazy girl im so sorry you had to go through that 😔

Oh no! Did you see the doctor after your appointment? Could they provide you with some information or pictures, at least?

As far as I know baby boy is ok but the tech wouldn’t even look at me or say anything even when I tried to make a joke. I don’t see my dr again till next week, not that she’s any better. My appointments with her aren’t even 5 minutes and she comes off as cold and uninterested and I leave feeling horrible every time and cry in the car. I have to have a c section and I’m really uncomfortable with her being the one to cut me open, there has been no compassion, no empathy, no excitement…. Nothing from her.

Why didn’t get u get to see baby ? Did she turn it away from u ? And I get not talking about what she see on the screen but she didn’t have to make it awkward

Yeah alot of this sounds very unprofessional and if you can just ask to see another doctor in the same practice I had to do that with my midwife.. there was nothing wrong with her god bless her but she had a wicked creepy smile like the movie "smile" and I just felt so uncomfortable around her 😬 anyways try to see if someone else can see you or maybe even talk to your doctor about how she makes you feel if you're comfortable with that..

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