Wow (venting! Offer help if you feel the need lol)

Just when I think my sister and I have somewhat worker through something… still no effort from her on planning hangs outs/play dates, so many excuses still, and just lacking accountability. I’ve planned her into a few things now and there’s always something that she wants to bring up that could possibly be a no when the time comes. Never gives me a yes and these plans are a month or couples months out, so I understand not wanting to make a definite yes decision on things… but why does it always feel like she’s leaning more on the no side?!?!!!!

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Nursery funding question

I have a 2yo currently at nursery and we’ve got the 30hours working parents hours and in August my youngest will start who will also get the 30 hours. I also use the tax free childcare.
However, my partner is starting university full time and has been told student finance can help with up to 85% of nursery fees, how does this work if I’m working and have the childcare etc in my name? Or are we best to just keep it how it is? Has anyone been in this situation before? It’s confusing enough without confusing it more 😵‍💫😅

Joking around

It seems like my husband is making jabs at me disguised as jokes. And he will
do it in front of other people.
When I confront him and tell him that the jokes he's making doesn't come across as funny to me he basically just thinks I'm being sensitive. It almost seems like resentment coming out in "joke" form, but no one laughs and it just tears me down and leaves me feeling uncomfortable. Idk if it's just me... maybe I am sensitive and just can't take a joke. He literally said that he isn't going to joke around with me anymore. Which I don't understand because me and my husband can joke around and have laughing fits but there are just some things that I just don't find very funny and I actually find insulting.

His response to me bringing it up makes me question myself a lot and if I shouldn't get so offended and if I should be more accepting of these jokes even though they might feel like jabs maybe I'm just overly sensitive.

I'm not sure how I should handle this.

Make me feel less anxious 😅

So I’m 7 Months PP, my husband & I just bought our first home & paid off all of my other debt. We are in a very good place in our relationship & went away a few weeks ago… & well on thing lead to another and he didn’t pull out (I’m on the patch for context but we don’t use protection). We’ve had a cold for the last week & I’ve been feeling super sick to my stomach but my husband says he is to.

I did take a test (period is due next week) & it was negative but I know it would be too early (my husband was bugging me 😂). He makes alot of “jokes” but not jokes about me being a stay at home mom, it’s something we both want. However ‘stay at home’ would mean work 2 nights a week & every other Saturday most likely (we both feel i should never completely not work. We have been chatting recently about if I am pregnant & what that would look like (not working until both kids are in school)

WELL. We are both very anxious about the possibility of me being pregnant, I feel like it’s unlikely because we’ve struggled with fertility issues in the past but like it only takes one time 😅.

For context my husband & I are open to the idea of another baby, we both would prefer a 3-4 year age gap & also would love to have another when I would actually have enough hours for maternity leave again. My work is very accommodating so I’m not concerned about that. I guess just any advice or well wishes would help 🤍 thank you

Am I wrong?

My 13 year old niece is awake. I asked her around 4:30am why she’s awake & around 5:30am she replied “Playing with friends.” I ask “Playing what with friends?! 👀 I love you, be good.” Am I wrong to be concerned? She lives with her dad’s girlfriend currently, but used to live with her paternal aunt, who was lazy and careless and irresponsible. Her dad is often out of state for work and her mom has always put drugs, alcohol and questionable men before her own kids. Her main guardians have been my MIL, her paternal aunt and now her dad’s girlfriend of maybe 8 months. I know it’s summertime, but am I wrong for thinking she should be responsible and asleep at this hour?

Childcare funded hours

Can someone please help break this down to me 🫠 qualified for the funded hours spread out so roughly 22 per week. Also can have tax-free childcare. But how does it work? He starts in September and I don’t really find the nursery helpful at all 😬 if anyone could just give an example of what it looks like for them would be great!! (My brain doesn’t seem to want to work haha)

Nursery mum took my toddler

My nearly 2 year old was having a tantrum and I was letting him finish it. He was tired and we were on our way to leave the event. It was a small private gathering.

A mum I know from nursery went and took him from my sight and put him on her knee.

I felt uncomfortable. Like she was undermining ms. What would you do?