A while ago i found out my husband was letting his female friend talk shit about me n he was talking shit as well about me and as someone that I love so much it obviously hurt me so bad I constantly think about it and ask myself why he would do that I bring it up because the first time we talked about it you could see on his face that it didn’t really bother him n that he was getting annoyed by the questions i asked him so it feels like the whole thing is unresolved I have really bad anxiety so it pops up into my head quite often I brought it up to him again because I can’t wrap my head around it and as always he seemed annoyed because I asked him why he did it and he said “i said sorry what else do you want me to do” it was in a text btw where he said sorry long story short he said I was just trying to start a argument because I bring up everything when everything is back to normal can someone tell me if I am overreacting
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You’re not overreacting. The hurt isn’t just that he talked badly about you. It’s that he let another woman disrespect you and then acted annoyed when you needed reassurance. Saying sorry doesn’t automatically repair trust. Real repair would be him understanding why it hurt, setting a boundary with that friend, and showing you through his actions that he won’t do it again. This is why it feels unresolved and spikes your anxiety. You aren't overreacting.

Blocking her is a start, but the hurt makes sense because you had to beg for that boundary. It’s not about him being a girl or not, it’s about loyalty and feeling like your partner would protect you when someone disrespects you. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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