Has anyone lost their way on how to develop their toddler at home?

I have a 16 month old. In the first year I felt like I was smashing the SAHM thing and teaching her things. Now all of a sudden she's not as stimulated or learning anything new. I feel like I've lost my way a bit with teaching her things.

We have a good routine....
Wake up and cuddle
30 mins play no distraction
Breakfast
Go for a walk
Attend a toddler class
Home and read books before nap
Nap
Lunch
Out to an outdoor playground / playdate
Home and play for 1 hour
Dinner
Bath
Soft calm play
Books
Bed

What are you doing to teach your toddler?

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Similar routine to yours, when we play we do independent play while I get bits done or he will join in with what im doing, so if I have washing he will put washing in the washing machine or take it out if it needs to come out. When playing with him we just play with his toys and ill just say random things like "blue car" "green square" etc etc, we have a toni do thats always on and we use the singing ones and we sing whilst playing. I do counting with him too, so line some toys up and count them or count them as im line them up, when its time to tidy up before dinner we count like his blocks whilst putting them away, LB is 18 months and can count to 10.
The best way is just to comment on everything like even if youre having abit of screen time you could talk to them about it too.
Sometimes we sit in the window and watch the world go by, we live next to a main road so lots of traffic and activity!
Hes also in the what's that stage and has been for about 6 months 🫣

I think the what's that stage has come from me saying like oh what's this a car! And he will now say "what's that? A car!"

Honestly Just winging it at this point! I never know what to do so I just talk about everything!

When I play with my 19 month old, I often try and teach him things. Even if I think it's probably too early too. Simple things like finding which cup I have hidden a toy under after I have moved them around, jigsaw puzzles. He discovers things at his rate. At the moment he is trying to jump.
My son also helps me around the house. He will help me put away the dishes, put washing in the washing machine. Granted it makes the process 1000 times longer but he is learning so I don't mind.

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