Am I in the wrong?

Doesn’t matter if he has a job or not he needs to still help that’s part of being a parent and being a husband and he needs to learn that yes he has a job but you have a job that you can’t clock out from you’re always working and he needs to realize that so when he is home if you need time just hand him the baby and walk away if he asks tell him you need at least just 5 or 10 minutes to yourself to just breathe or whatever it is you wanna do if he has a problem with that tell him it’s part of being a father and he’s gonna have to get use to it eventually

Hey I just want to say I was in the same boat. It’s a very hard place to be in. You’re not crazy and I don’t think you’re asking for too much. My husband used the whole “I work FT so don’t ask me to do anything else” bit but then I got a FT job that pays more and I’m STILL doing everything else. It’s hard and resentment is sure to build up and create a giant wedge if it’s not corrected soon. I recommend counseling, getting a family member to babysit so y’all can spend any quality time together, build in times just for you where you can even with baby. Yoga, journal, meditate, call friends. Hold onto your life and those in your corner to anchor you. Sending you love mama!

He would have worked and paid for everything if you and your son wasn't around and he would have had to cook to feed himself,tidy after himself, do the laundry ect. Him having a job isn't something he is doing for you and the child. Never take that bull from a man! Why have a child if you are not going to parent, he gets time out when he goes to work, he does need a breather at home to not fair on you as you don't get a minute to urself stuck in 4 walls all day

Stop doing things for your husband. Stop cooking for him, stop cleaning up after him, stop doing his laundry. You are his wife, not his mother

My friend explained it to me this way and I really appreciated it, when dad clocks in for work, so does mom. When dad clocks out of work, so does mom. And at that point childcare is a shared responsibility. Yes he works all day, but so do you. It’s not fair for him to be able to clock out but you never get to.

The financial part is a whole different situation, and I’m so sorry you get the third degree when you need to purchase things for your child. In my household all money is shared money, there is no ‘my money’ or ‘his money’, just ‘our money’. If it’s a necessity like groceries or diapers or clothes for your child you should never have to ask for it. Do you have a shared bank card? Because I would just use it, don’t ask.

My husband was similar at one point and then I stopped doing things for him, I never do his laundry, I do mine and the kids and when it comes to food I won't ho out of my way to make sure he has some. If food runs out I text him grab something or make ur own if I have time to rustle up something for him I do. But my kids and my own mental health are my priority!! Don't put yourself last because you end up resenting him and thr life he has, and that resentment will ruin ur marriage.