Why is it so hard to make friends in London?

Posting anonymously because I’m actually embarrassed to admit that I’ve lived in London for 1.5 years now and I haven’t made a single friend. I’ve been to baby classes and groups (which my toddler has now outgrown), I’ve been on this app for months and despite connecting with lots of mums they always seem to stop replying to messages or promise to get back to me and I never hear from them again. I’ve lived in several different cities and never struggled to make friends until now. Am I the only one who feels this way about London? It’s genuinely making me think this isn’t the city for me.

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I feel you.

Most times, we just get swamped with a lot going on and we forget to even catch up with people.
I still struggle with that.
I hit it off with someone here and after a few, exciting chats, I get busy a bit with life and kids and when I come back, feels like the other person has moved on and I also just move.
Might be hard to get and keep one serious person, but you will get there eventually.

Sameee and I’ve lived here nearly 5 years 🥲

I have lived here 10 years, and I have found the majority of my friends I have made are from work, I haven't made lots of mum friends. I know lots of people and get on with lots of mums but don't really know them on a personal level! Where about are you?

in our community

Feeling all sorts of ways- racial tensions

Anyone else feeling scared of the increasing intensity and frequency of race riots in the UK?

Also, before shit hits the fan like it does on other platforms (i can't believe) i have to say i think all perpetrators of violence are scum, whatever they may look like 👍

Would you describe yourself as..

Racist?
Obviously this is an anonymous poll so I wonder if anyone thinks of themselves as this? I’ve heard a lot of “I’m not racist but” then an obviously racist remark being said and wonder if people genuinely believe the first line they’ve just said. This is not to start an argument in the comments section…it’s I guess a fairly straight forward question.

Personal advice

I had a hunch so I checked my partners messages and he joined a porn sever and messaged one of the girls on there asking if her dms were open. Nothing happened but I'm still quite hurt that he even thought about messaging another girl. He said its because he lost control because I haven't done anything sexual in months (we have a 2 month old) idk if I can forgive and just need opinions

Break up or forgive?!

I just turned 8 months pregnant and I found out my baby daddy is on hinge.
He said he only went there because we had a little argument the day before and said he didn’t do anything.
Plus he had been texting other girls on instagram too!
He keeps saying sorry but honestly I don’t believe him no more, some of my friends say that I’m being to emotional because of my hormones. Honestly idk what to do!!! Mind this is the third time he messes up!🙄🙄
Should I break up with him or just forgive him???

Do you struggle with empathy ?

I feel like I really struggle having empathy for people, all I hear is aaa im a victim aaa im like this cos of this. I can really sympathise for people but I guess where I had it so tough growing up and into adulthood that I just get on with things yes it’s hard but I don’t ever use it as a excuse I use it as a reason to be better . I can’t stand weak people I guess that’s my problem! Does anyone relate or have any insight into this behaviour as I feel awful that I can’t give better advice other than suck it up be strong you can get through any thing !! 🙈

Hey mamas

I’m looking for friends who want to come over and swim and make bracelets or do nothing just tired of doing things by myself and need some mom friends to do it with