Unheard

Does anyone else have a toddler that just doesn’t listen when you say something so you have to repeat it 100 times and it starts out calm but then you get filled with Rage and scream?

My son (2) will listen to his father on the first say so. When I speak, it falls on deaf ears. Then I feel like I have no authoritative presence in my own home. I cook, I clean, I kiss booboos, I do bed time but when I ask for anything I feel disrespected.

Am I loosing my mind? Does any other mother feel like they aren’t listened to? I feel like crying (which I am as I type this) because why does my husband get the fun times and listened to but I have to raise my voice, ask 100 times and feel like a fucking shadow of a person.

Please tell me I’m not alone. Tell me my crying and sleepless nights aren’t for nothing

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Toys/Play Ideas for 1 Year Old

Hiya,

Just looking for recommendations for toys/play ideas for a one year old?

What toys do your one year olds play with frequently and love?

Also what play ideas have worked well with your one year olds? I.e. “cleaning” animal toys for instance? (Not sure if that’s actually a more older play idea but hence the need for some ideas please).

Thanks in advance ☺️

Teething help!

Can teething cause a baby to cry on the bottle because the motion of sucking on the teat hurts their gums? My daughter is about to cut teeth any day and for the past 3 days she cries on the bottle like it’s hurting her gums. Every time I check to see if a tooth has cut she cries so I’m guessing her gums are super sore atm.

Am I overreacting?

Bit annoyed, we have 2 kids, a 2yr old and 2 month old. Im ebf so bit limited to time with toddler and my hubby takes him out on the weekend usually leaving me at home with baby.
I said today, I cant do a full day out as im nto confident in bf in public etc. So hubby went out, then after his nap said hed go to his mums and be back for dinner.
Ive got toddlers dinner ready and it got to 4:50pm and he says hes given him dinner at his mums and he will be bk by 5:30pm.... we put him to bed at 6pm

Im pist off as ive literally not seen him pretty much all day, we give him dinner between 4:30/5pm so letting me know that late takes the piss.

So im literally ginna get him dressed and put him to bed im so upset

Just wanted somewhere to vent and reassurance im not overreacting

Am I the wrong one here? Why is my husband giving me a hard time post delivery?

I had my baby 21 days ago, it’s only me n my husband in the country and my pregnancy has been hard with hyperemesis for 4 months n I couldn’t get out of bed without his help, he’s been really kind n supportive throughout. But since the time we have had the baby, he’s throwing soo much anger n hatred on me I do not understand why. His patience level has dropped significantly, I see the work he does and doing my best not to add on any more work or even emotionally, keeping it to just myself. I lost my dad last year suddenly and my expectations are zero on anything right now, I’m just grateful that my health n the baby’s. I have literally been easier with my mood swings throughout than my regular periods. My mums here to help me from a month now n I really do need her and we need the extra hand. His parents were supposed to travel for the birth but couldn’t because their visas got rejected. I understand he misses them but is he jealous that my mums here n showing it on me? Hes not happy about things my mum does with the baby, like bathing n stuff n when the same thing comes from his mom, he’s happy to do. Im ignoring everything because i dont have the mental capacity right now. He’s getting into petty fights with me all the time, and says I treat him like shit n I think I’m PURE n everything he did is shit. This is out of no where, I just can’t take it anymore. He usually does the diaper change n i help him do, last night in between the fight, the baby needed a change n while he sat there, i did it n he did not show a sign of helping n next thing I hear is I’m not letting him do the baby things like am I stopping him n how I treat him like shit, he kept going on about how bad I’m and called me a ‘fucking egoistic bitch’ and walked out of the room. This was a first of its kind. He came back telling sorry n he dint mean it, by this time it was 5am n I hadn’t had a minute of sleep and been breastfeeding around the clock. I told him I need a break n to reduce interactions with me n care only for the baby for my sanity, but he still stop. I asked him to sleep in the guest room n my mum will help me in the night from today, he got my mum to swap right immediately. I never thought of him being so disrespectful and now with the child and increasing fights I’m soo afraid.

Child Sexual abuse *trigger warning

So my one fucking fear came true! I feel sooo mad at myself and mad at the situation and gutted in general.
We had another family over to our house (we never host people but weve known them along time and they had visited us once on vacation and the boys played well in the pool).
My son is 4 and the boy is *update*15 turning 16 . I found out in 10 minutes that they were in a playroom together before i realized and his sister went downstairs to check on them. I have a camera outside the room and saw them come out adjusting their pants. It looked suspicious but ive been told i am paranoid about this stuff so kept it at theback of my mind. I noticed my son toucing his penis more that evening. I went to bed and couldnt stop thinking about it. Today we noticed him retract his penis and my husband said what you doing (not something he normally does) etc we asked a few questions and he said the boys name touched it and he licked the boys penis. I am dying inside!! I have feared this happening. Ive had conversations about no one touching your body and private parts etc but I knew he didnt fully grasp and also in a situation with a friend feels alot different 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ i donno what I want out of this post other than that I am beside myself. We’ve called the family and they are going to call back they were very sorry and shocked too. I am sooo mad I let this happen. I put my son in the hands of someone to take advantage in our own house 😩 now I am like this opens so many doors for future abuse and for him to even be an abuser without even fully grasping it. It feels fucking so gut wrenching. I am a fully time mom. My sons never been watched by a grandma, relative, daycare etc. ive been so ontop of things i thought and I still failed!! In 10 minutes 😩

Am I being over dramatic about this or valid

Near end of pregnancy (any day now) and my husband wants to invite his family over to watch a fight and I said I’m not sure I’m up for hosting and having people over rn as I haven’t been feeling well and we have a small place so I can’t really hide away. He said I could just lay in our room while they are here if I’m not feeling good but idk I just don’t feel like having company. So we’re both kinda upset about it rn what so you think ?