Feeling like an idiot

I’m about to give birth soon and I just found out who my husband really is. He’s been off the entire pregnancy and has gotten more aggressive and angry over time to the point any time he raises his voice I unconsciously flinch. I’ve been told over and over again that I’m delusional, I’m making things up, and I don’t know what I’m talking about. For years I’ve stood there going to his family outings while everyone just smiled in my face and talked about me behind my back…WITH my husband. He’s stood up for them every single time and yelled at me multiple times bc he claimed to not understand why I didn’t enjoy being around them all the time. He legit hates my mom who I’ve been open about sharing things with and when she sticks up for me against him letting him know his babies are due soon so he should start staying close to home…he just completely blew up. I’m not scared of him but scared that he might show me there’s even more to this side and…I just don’t know what to do. I haven’t cried about it yet. I’m honestly still in shock bc I already knew something was off about him since we got married but I let him convince me otherwise bc I didn’t want any of it to be true. I’m doing my best not to just shut down emotionally bc I need those to take care of my little ones but I have nowhere to go and no finances to my name…I feel so stuck.

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