Am I being selfish?

Alright mamas, I need some help and heart to hearts. My heart is breaking every day because my baby girl is almost 7 months old she is my first and it’s killing me knowing she will not always be my teeny girl. She was born 5.5lbs and then one day she grew into this lengthy 16lb baby and it’s happening so fast. I’m excited to see her grow up but I’m so heart broken knowing that I’ll never get to keep any version of her and I never get to say goodbye to the little versions. My husband says he is overly excited about her to grow and while I am too I am more upset that I’ll never get to be with her this little again. She is the one who made me a mama and I just want her to stay little. My husband said I’m being selfish in thinking this and that hurts me more. Please tell me others think the same way because honestly I love my little girl more than anything in this world and I’m so nervous for more kids because none of them will get the same amount of time I enjoy with her because I will have other kids to take care of. I’m not sure I’m just super emotional and I want her to grow up and be happy but I just wish time wasn’t such a horrible thief.

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I'm also a ftm and I'm of two minds with my baby. I'm so excited to see him learning and growing but I definitely miss him being tiny. I take all the videos and pictures I can so I can hold on to these precious snippets of time with him as a little. Heck, I spend time going through the gallery on my phone while he's sleeping beside me and crying because I miss him as a newborn. Then I look down and cry more because he learned something new and I'm so proud.
Motherhood is a glass case of emotions...

Do not beat yourself up. There's nothing selfish about missing her being a small baby. I go through all of these emotions on a daily basis. My daughter is also almost 7 months. She was a very tough newborn and my maternity leave was very rough. Although I don't miss the newborn stress, I grieve the part that I didn't have a "blissful" time and that I can never get that back. It all just goes by so fast.
You can be excited for her and proud of her and still be sad about the parts that are gone already.

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