I am done being friends with insecure people.

I’m serious. We are too old to be so insecure and not know ourselves!!!

I’m a very confident person and every single time I’ve befriended someone who isn’t it always go bad. They constantly are looking for validation and approval while repeatedly giving backhanded compliments trying to knock me down, I’m not with the shit.

I was recently friends with someone who took every little thing I did for myself as an attack against her so I stopped telling her what I had going on and she was upset with that too, I’m exhausted with the one sided competition. If you’re insecure about your looks, change them. If you’re insecure about your weight, go to the gym. If you’re insecure about your financial status, make some moves. Focus on you and stop worrying about what I do because I’ve busted my ass to be who I am.

I just want a normal friend, I’m seriously exhausted. I want to be able to get lunch and talk about movies or pop culture, go shopping and hang out without it being so dramatic every single time.

in our community

The most embarrassing accent/language mistake you made?

While I was in Belfast I nipped into TK maxx (not somewhere I ever shop) to get an emergency rain jacket, the girl on the till asked me if I had a charging cord which I thought was really strange surely she would bring her charger to work, I said no I don’t sorry, she said oh would you like to get one then,I said no I’ve got one in the hotel room I just don’t carry it around with me,it wasn’t until she had looked at me funnily and I heard another cashier asking someone “do you have a treasure card” I realised she was talking about their membership card 🤣🤣😭😭😭

Thoughts?

My man works away from home most of the week. He went to a FIFA World Cup Game with his guy friends & I was a little hurt because I haven’t been able to do anything for myself or by myself for years since I gave birth to our child. Anywho, fast forward and he comes back really late telling me he’s exhausted, but then asks if I’m horny and I say no I’ve just been stressed all day taking care of our child who’s been throwing tantrums all day. And also, I feel like he’s probably horny because he prob saw a bunch of hot girls today at the event and I don’t feel like being used so he can get himself off of that’s why he’s horny. So I told him I’m too tired and I just want to sleep because we have plans in the morning. Since he’s come home on this particular week, he’s actually really tried to have sex with me a lot which he hasn’t been doing for years. So would you have sex with your man or would you be turned off too?

Am I being silly? (2 weeks PP)

I’m two weeks PP, my hormones are absolutely everywhere but am I being silly over this… so I was on the phone to my boyfriend before and he mentioned that his friend has booked somewhere for them to go out next week to watch England play and I didn’t say anything I just kept quite however I’m feeling it’s not very fair on me.. I’ve sacrificed so much, I’m exhausted, I haven’t had any freedom in months, and somehow he’s still able to have parts of his old life while mine has completely changed. There’s nothing wrong with him going out but all throughout my pregnancy he still enjoyed himself with his friends where I don’t know when I’ll find the time because my priorities are now her? I’m up every night doing the feeds which is my fault because I only showed him once and he never did it and I’m terrified of him getting her bottles wrong if that makes sense? like i always take over but being two weeks PP it’s now starting to get to me and i understand he’s back at work but I haven’t slept properly since when he’s been ok. He’s an amazing dad and I’m not criticising him but I want him to do more. What do I do my emotions are absolutely everywhere :(

Loneliness

I am currently 3 weeks PP with my second baby boy and really struggling with feelings of loneliness
I don’t really have any friends and so only have family and my partner for company
Just wondering if anyone wants to chat at all

Advice.. based on getting married

I was proposed to my fiancé during my pregnancy, I want to be married to this man but I feel I want time to recover as I am currently 3 month postpartum and want time to get the hang of parenthood and time to feel somewhat myself again. I want time to go back to the gym being healthier like how I was before pregnancy and be in a better mindset to plan a wedding but having our daughter out of wedlock I feel a lot of pressure from my fiancé as he is an orthodox Christian (I would consider myself a ‘baby’ Christian who would love to get married in a church). I didn’t grow up in the church and within Christianity but I’ve always found great importance with what a marriage is - not something I take lightly and I see a wedding as a day I want to enjoy and feel my best. He wants us to get married asap.
I need advice if it is best to get married asap or wait it out when I feel ready (could be in a years time). Or if there is any other suggestions/advice.

Need a bestie

Why is it so hard to find friends as on adult 😢