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My partner and I been together over 9 years and since our daughter has been here he has changed. He usually comes 2 mine( I live with my mum as landlord sold the flat i was living in when I got pregnant) on Tuesdays afternoon but he will come the latest as possible and even tho he knws im pissed off with him doing this he carries on doing it. He takes our daughter to skl on Wednesday to Friday and the time she's in nursery he goes upstairs and sleeps and not spend time with me. Ive told him tht im annoyed he does tht but doesnt bother him he will just say my bad or sorry... but he carries on doing same thing. The friday I take our daughter 2 bed and he will go hme and he doesnt bother with us on the weekend( he will call later in the day) I take my daughter out as much as I can on weekends so shes not bored at hme. It's a struggle for him 2 do stuff with her unless im payin or im comin as well its neva just them.
I've had moments where ive had enough and would just be single but its just thinkin would he even bother with our daughter if i end it.

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I mean this in the nicest possible way but if he doesn't live with you or want to spend evenings or weekends with you I'm not sure it's a relationship (on his side) still. If he's not working weekends or evenings then he should be with his family, balancing it with own free time (on both sides) to see friends / pursue solo hobbies.

You would never know if he would bother with her, but as she grows older she will be very aware if he is treating her as an obligation or as a treasured daughter. He would of course have to pay maintenance if you split. Contact i don't think can be enforced.

I think, ask yourself what's in this for you anymore? Iz this the kind of relationship you want your daughter to learn from?

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

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This sounds like co-parenting not a relationship I'm afraid. Why can't you live where he lives?

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