Toddlers hitting

I’m here waiting for the suggestion as well please 😂 he starts nursery soon and I’m so worried about him going there and hitting 🫣

My first is going on 2 in Aug and I live by the old way they smack, pull hair whatever give it right back (obviously not enough to hurt them but to just show hey that does hurt) and if he’s doing it cause it’s about a toy or something guess what toy goes bye bye. If he’s wants to be held and is being mean I walk away.

My daughter does this too I’m struggling like mad at the moment it’s like it’s all she knows :(

Same! I think its consistency that works mostly. When my son also 2 hits or throws something I remove him from the fun for a minute or remove the fun from him. They are still learning and its cause and effect they are testing so teaching him that the bad behavior doesnt get a reaction and he gets taken away from the fun each time seemed to work with my older son so im trying that with my younger one. Also he is doing the raspberry spitting thing too and I think they just think its funny but he doesnt like when I clean his face after he does it so he doesnt do it so much 😅

My eldest used to hit and pull my hair, and he stopped when I did this:

1. Try not to show excess of emotion/ reaction.
2. Try to keep neutral face/ expressions. Say no, and either put them down or leave the room.
3. If they cry, pick them up.
4. If they do it again, repeat.
5. When you're playing or spending time together, try and show him how to touch gently. I used to take his hand and gently pat my face with it.

I find it that blowing raspberries was just a phase. I kind of ignored it and he stopped on his own. I think because he realised he doesn't get any attention by doing so.

Consistency is key.
You'll do this quite a few times until it starts working, unfortunately 😅 xx

I’ve been dealing with that with my son too, but because they are 2, they can’t reason that much now so all you can do is be consistent and tell them no, and reflect them elsewhere. I took him to a preschool/daycare setting and he was hitting and pushing and the teacher said he needed sensory stimulation so she gave him something to wear around his neck to bite when he felt the need to hit. She said it worked right away. Now if he’s upset I ask if he needs a “biting towel” or something to remove the urge. I’ve started with 2 minute “breaks” when he hits. I try to be calm about it. I’m starting to tell him that there’s consequences for him hitting bc we’ll be using a behavior board when he turns 3. I see improvements but when he’s around family he gets a little angry. He slapped my aunt today so yeah….it’s embarrassing and I get overwhelmed but it’s part of the process. I tell people he’s in training lol. I’m sure my aunt is silently judging me bc she would recommend to hit him back. 🤷🏽‍♀️

When my son hit I would hold his hands and say "Hitting hurts, hands are for helping and sharing." If he continued to hit I would remove myself.
Took a bit to work. Not that he's older, when he has his big feelings and is about to hit I just ask him what hands are used for. He tells me and then we talk about what he's feeling and better ways to express them. He'll be 4 on October

I typically ignore hitting from my 20 month old and the other two toddlers I care for. I draw attention to a positive behaviour that someone else is doing… if they persist (which sometimes happens) I redirect them to a safe space and simply say no hitting, and either offer them a toy or let them settle and then offer a toy

I calmly say “hands are not for hitting, we need to be kind to each other” and remove myself. She’s allowed to come and find me when she’s ready to be kind and usually comes for a cuddle once she’s calmed down.